In a high cost of living state like New Jersey, $48,000 a year doesn't go very far after you tote up the expenses. His wife is far being a gold digger if she asks to be maintained in a middle class lifestyle. There's no one to blame for the breakup of the marriage but her husband. By all accounts she was the faithful wife.
"Show me just what Mohammed brought that was new, and there you will find things only evil and inhuman, such as his command to spread by the sword the faith he preached." - Manuel II Palelologus