Not by your words, perhaps, and I am guessing certainly not intentionally, but by your actions in the eyes of your children and any other children. They understand fully the message you send.
I understand you have the best interests of your children at heart, and I am not accusing you of hating men. I am not even accusing you of being hateful.
I simply think that it is a terrible mistake to send the message to children that any kind of interaction with solitary adult men must be avoided at all costs unless there is another adult present. You are "playing the odds" in an effort to protect your children, encouraging others to do the same, but at what cost?
As an exercise to illustrate this point and to demonstrate how wrong I think you are (in my opinion), let me do a substitution.
Black men and crime...a disproportionally high percentage of violent crime is caused by black men between the ages of 16 and 45. Black men who do not commit violent crimes will unfailingly speak out against those who do...you cannot tell one kind from another (unless you count the wearing of gang garb)
Would you counsel children to never to speak with black men just "playing the odds"?
I haven’t told my kids not to speak to men -or to black men.
Really....you assume too much about someone you do not know.
Black men who do not commit violent crimes will unfailingly speak out against those who do...you cannot tell one kind from another (unless you count the wearing of gang garb)
That untrue. You can absolutely tell (with a fair degree of accuracy) the bad guys from the good. Any city kid knows that.