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This article has a misleading idea of success.

I grew up in a semi-stable house. My Mom and Dad got along alright. When they were getting along great life was great. Now all of this was going on while my Dad went from one dead-end job to the next.

When I graduated from High School I had a two-fold goal. Marry the woman who I could love for my entire life. In this ‘romantic’ relationship I would seek to be the best Dad and husband I could be so I could provide the most peaceful environment for my children. The second goal was to get a stable job with some degree of stability.

Now, according to this article, and some people here I have chosen romance over success. This is because I have not pursued College degrees or advancement in the company for which I work, because it takes too much time away from my family. While financially or business wise I would not be placed in the ‘successful’ column, family wise I am bathing in success.

I have three beautiful healthy children whom I get far more satisfaction out of watching their sporting events or camping out with or just joking around the dinner table with then ANY carreer position could possibly give me.

I need only look at my own brother and his wife. They chose to not have children in their quest for financial success. They have acchieved financial success. He runs his own computor business from home (Masters degree). She works for a large fortune 500 company as a tax lawyer. They can and do travel where-ever they want. They can buy whatever they want. They will probably retire early as millionaires, but they have no one to pass on all of their life lessons to.

If that’s how people define success, you can have it. Give me a 30 year mortgage, no new cars off of the lot, vacations limited to local tourist traps, and constant carpooling of kids to events anyday. I have met my goal of having kids and raising them in a secure environment. That, to me, is a far greater success then any job could EVER give.

Sincerely