Posted on 07/14/2007 12:43:37 AM PDT by 2ndDivisionVet
"Stripper." "Bimbo." "Permanently tan."
These are just a few of the adjectives used in the media lately to describe Jeri Kehn Thompson.
She's the wife of likely Republican presidential candidate and former Tennessee Sen. Fred Thompson, and one of the latest women to have characteristics associated with "trophy wives."
Thompson joins the ranks of other notable women who have been referred to as trophy wives, like Donald Trump's ex-wife Marla Maples and the late Anna Nicole Smith.
But is she really a trophy wife? Though she's blond, beautiful and nearly 25 years younger than her husband, Kehn Thompson, a political media consultant who previously worked for the Senate Republican Conference and a prestigious Washington law firm, doesn't appear to fit the typical description.
Can a woman be so accomplished on her own and still be considered her husband's "trophy"?
ABCNEWS.com set out to figure out exactly what makes an ordinary wife into a trophy wife.
The Anatomy of a Trophy Wife
Some say it's youth and good looks, others argue smarts and success, and still others believe the formula for the ultimate trophy wife is a cocktail of beauty and intelligence.
Many believe the term is highly sexist and demeaning toward women, but others are certain some women would do just about anything to be crowned a trophy wife.
A 1989 article in Fortune magazine may have introduced the phrase, describing a trophy wife as a woman who is a "decade or two younger than her husband, sometimes several inches taller, beautiful, and very often accomplished."
A man who marries for the second and third time, the article explained, was likely looking for a partner who was a lot like his first wife -- just younger, more beautiful and successful enough to have her own career (but not so much so that she steals the spotlight).
But the meaning of the phrase has changed, some experts say, with more and more emphasis being placed on the success of the woman.
"The idea of the trophy wife has progressed so that men want a woman who has some social equality, and it's not a dominant-submissive relationship," said Anne Kingston, author of "The Meaning of Wife." "Increasingly, it's not simply the decoration that a truly accomplished man wants, but an equal."
But stereotypes still abound, and the superficial connotation associated with trophy wives is hard to avoid.
"When we talk about a trophy, it doesn't matter how successful a woman is. It comes down to the decorative aspect and the idea that she's a babe," said Kingston.
Smarts and Sex Appeal Are the Key Ingredients, Some Experts Say "The general conception of a trophy wife is that she knows how to wear expensive clothes, is good looking and can make chitchat at cocktail parties," said Raoul Felder, a celebrity divorce lawyer who has worked with so-called trophy wives. "A trophy by definition just hangs out there."
Is The Trophy Wife Label Sexist?
To some, the fact that there is no prevalent trophy husband stereotype for men makes the trophy wife label seem that much more unfair to women. And some consider it offensive that the term implies that the wife is an object who is bought, or won by a husband.
"The individual sees the wife as a highly desirable object to obtain, roughly equivalent to one's vacation house, one's expensive car and one's status possessions," said Michael Cunningham, a psychologist who specializes in physical attractiveness. "So to be labeled as a desirable object by definition means one has value. But one is not being complimented for one's passion or intelligence."
In fact, Kehn Thompson, who formerly worked as a spokeswoman for the Republican National Committee, has quite an impressive resume. She could not be reached for comment regarding her description as a trophy wife.
"People may not like Mrs. Thompson for whatever reasons, but she's an accomplished woman, and to call her a trophy wife is really sexist," said Paul Costello, former press secretary for Kitty Dukakis. "And it's really demeaning. No one would use those terms to a guy who was good looking and stylish. I find it really sexist."
Take It as a Compliment
Claims of sexism may abound, but at the end of the day, many women would be flattered to be considered a trophy wife, and those who are not may actually aspire to become one, according to Dr. Debbie Then, a social psychologist who specializes in women and appearance.
"Any woman who is deemed a trophy wife has sort of a feather in her cap, it's a compliment," said Then. "I think most of the women think it's flattering on some level. Because no matter what a woman does in her life, when the chips are down, women are all evaluated based on their appearance."
Smarts and Sex Appeal Are the Key Ingredients, Some Experts Say.
But there may be such a thing as being too beautiful, she said, and many women feel slighted when their beauty is the only thing people notice.
"There can be that double-edged sword that she can be too good looking for her own good," said Then. "It can take away from her other qualities, and people might see her as less professional."
Why the Men Are Smiling
Even if some women are pleased about the trophy wife label, men are likely even happier. Having an attractive wife, some say, cannot only make the husband feel more powerful, but may even make him appear more attractive to others.
"The concept of trophy wives is more focused on the man than the woman in the sense that he has gotten a trophy," said Dr. Lucia Gilbert, a professor at the department of educational psychology and the director of women's studies at the University of Texas-Austin. "He has been able to snag, in a sense, a spouse or a wife that other men are envious of.
And there's the radiated beauty effect, which proves that men who have attractive spouses are considered more popular, more attractive and more successful by other people, regardless of their own looks.
"An unattractive man or a reasonably attractive man will be elevated in the eyes of those around him if he's with an attractive woman," said Then. "And if she's a young beauty queen, even better. People think he must be fabulous to have attracted her."
So Does Mrs. Thompson Fit the Bill?
Whether Kehn Thompson really is a trophy wife may ultimately be up to her to decide. Depending on her perspective on the label, she may deem the trophy wife branding as an insult or a compliment.
Until she says otherwise, it's probably safe to assume that for now Kehn Thompson is OK with dropping the "trophy" moniker and just being a regular wife.
My idea of a trophy wife is a much younger woman married to a successful man. Their marriage is a perpetual honeymoon with NO children. She spends money, has no job, and is eye candy, not much in the brain department.
A professional woman who marries and has children becomes a mother, therefore she does not equate, in any way, with a trophy wife.
The left is exhibiting Fear of Fred syndrome. ;^)
Huh, they have two, one is an infant.
The children cement the deal for the wife should a divorce happen. Children (whether born to rich or poor women) are a guarantee in Family Court of a "better" division of the wealth. They work much better than having just been married to the man so far as future income goes.
I don't like the whole idea of young women marrying old wealthy men. I don't believe it is about love whether Larry King does it, Donald Trump did it, Tony Randall did it, or even Fred Astaire did it. I don't believe Anna Nicole Smith "just" loved 89 year old billionaire Marshall and didn't care a thing about his money. If anyone believes any of these other incredibly young women really "just" love these incredibly wealthy old men, I've got a bridge for sale. That includes the Thompson marriage and I wouldn't vote for Fred just based on knowing about his May/Decemeber marriage. If a man has no sense in his private life, how much sense can have anywhere else?
From the I'm With Fred website...
"He and Jeri have a three-and-a-half year old daughter, and a seven-month old son."
http://15minutedate.com/blog/2007/06/23/50-reasons-why-young-women-should-date-older-men/
50 reasons why younger women marry older men
A must read about May Dec marriages
An excerpt:
“Some call it the “Sugar Daddy Syndrome.” Others call it the “Father was never around” complex. A lot of people have no problem with it, while many find it sick and perverted.”
Funny, funny stuff!!
I would say Jeri has the trophy husband.
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I don't know where Fred found her, and I've never been to the campus, but judging from what I've seen coming from the campus, I'd place the University of Tennessee at the top of the list for gorgeous women! (Just my thumbnail impression over the years.)(And that includes the University of Georgia--which is saying plenty!)
i am not my husband's trophy because i am only 2 years younger than he, but i can honestly say i would be flattered to be thought so. it is only the extremely insecure, who actually give a dang about what others think of their personal life, that would be put off by the moniker. Jeri Thompson is both beautiful and professionally accomplished. she has absolutely nothing to be insecure about and i doubt she is.
I’d say that EMILY FRIEDMAN needs to get her TESTOSTERONE under control. Jealousy... so ugly in print.
LLS
Hey, that's part of the trophy! Who's going to be interested in a mindless barbiedoll for more than 15 minutes?
I wonder what liberals and the MSM would be saying if Obama’s wife was called some of these derogatory names? Also liberals love to post photoshopped pics of Bush as a chimp or a monkey. What would happen if Obama was elected president and republicans did the same thing to Obama? We all know exactly what would happen.
Claims of sexism may abound, but at the end of the day, many women would be flattered to be considered a trophy wife, and those who are not may actually aspire to become one, according to Dr. Debbie Then, a social psychologist who specializes in women and appearance
Bottom line, those that throw it out as a perjorative are actually jealous that it can't be said of them.
I agree with your assessment. Also, a trophy wife is always ‘waiting in the wings’ when a man becomes successful and dumps wife #1. Fred was single for 20 years after his divorce, so he never brought in a step-mom to complicate his children’s lives, and he remains on good terms with wife #1.
I'm afraid Raoul's been howling up the wrong tree.
A trophy wife doesn't need to wear expensive clothes. People focus on her, not her clothes. And she doesn't make chitchat anywhere (especially at cocktail parties, which she's too intelligent to want to bother with). What she has to say is compelling--people listen because of its intelligence and wisdom.
And furthermore, one of the ultimate trophy wife qualities is that she is--not that she aspires to be--so far above the trendy, groupthink of fashionable mediocrity as to leave Lower Slobovia behind in the dust.
I'm an expert on the subject. I'm married to the quintessential trophy wife!
More like the booty prize. ;-)
My eyes, my eyes.
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