I'm sure that experience has a magic all it's own...I'm perfectly willing to concede that must be an extremely special experience.
What I'm talking about thought is not excluded by your experience. Certainly, your child has some of your traits, with which you've become familiar with every second of your existence. Likewise, I would contend that even if you hadn't even met your spouse at the time of the dream, you had some ideal as far as looks (and other characteristics) and very likely sought a spouse that conformed in some manner to those notions. I'm not, in any way trying to understate the miracle of your dream, and indeed, even trying to comprehend how our mind can independently connect all those dots and variables and produce an image of an as of yet unconceived child is indeed truly miraculous...
I would tend to agree Joe, but I saw him exactly as he appeared on that day, toddling down the hall of the new house,(which I had not seen until we started shopping for a home a year after the dream), and turning to look at me EXACTLY the same way it all appeared in the dream.
That was the moment I remembered the dream.
Thank goodness I had told my husband about the dream when it happened, or I might have questioned my own sanity.
I can see your point, and to a large extent, its all very true. However, there are still variables, and I say that because my son, who is three years younger than my daughter but came from the same two parents, looks *completely* different to her, in just about every possible way. His skin is golden, he has thick, stick straight brown hair and dark eyes, and is big boned and muscular (and a full head taller than his classmates), where she is a long skinny pale whippet of a thing, with big, long blue eyes and wavy, streaky, blondie baby fine hair, even now as a teenager. His face is roundish with dimples, hers is square with really high cheekbones and very delicate features. People have always remarked that “she looks like a fairy”, whereas my son looks like someone to be reckoned with! Point is, the same gene pool came together to create two completely different looking individuals, but I saw her in that dream looking exactly like she did at that age (though she has matured enough that she looks quite different now!).
That being said, I do agree wholeheartedly with your theory. I do believe that having the ability to take pieces of a puzzle and put them together, even subconsciously, into something resembling a picture/event is a big part of presentience.
However, I also believe that in particular instances, there is more than just logic involved. For instance, when my cousin got the impulse to move off of the train track - the road that she was on was one she traveled nearly daily for years, yet at that particular moment, she “knew” or felt that she had to get off of the tracks immediately. (There is a previous post on this thread containing that story!) There was logic involved, of course (I have never stopped my car straddling a track once in my entire life!), but *she* had never thought twice about stopping on it before that incident.