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I said:Since there are “No pictures” and no refreshments, and not talking in the sealing room, just don’t go, go to the reception, that’s where all the fun is anyway. Nobody is forcing anybody.

You said:DU, read that paragraph again to yourself. Seems a little callous and unfeeling to me. "Just don't go" isn't gonna cut it with loving parents that have looked forward for years to seeing their child married. And you accuse parents of just wanting to be there so they can chat and take pictures? Cold. "Nobody is forcing anybody!" Lovely.

The reception is the thing not to miss if you are a Mormon and want to be remembered at a wedding, the Sealing room is quite, reverent and the sealer and those being sealed (briefly) are the only ones who speak. Mom and Dad will not be sitting with the bride or groom, Dad does not even get to give the bride away. The sealing ceremony is beautiful, but to someone who does not believe, I can only assume it will be long and boring ceremony.

As for my attitudes about marriage, and what’s fun and what’s not, being cold, or unfeeling. I am a male chauvinist pig, proud to be one. My wife likes me that way, and I care far more about her opinion than anyone else’s

Your posts often smack of feminism and a feminist viewpoint, this is one of them.

We guys really do not LIKE the ceremony, sitting quietly, getting dressed up, we go along with it because we want to be married, but the wedding is for the wife. So as a guy, the reception is more fun (as long as I don’t end up washing dishes again).

As for actually being “Callos and unfeelong; Two of my brothers married Japanese girls, their parents were sitting in that waiting room I was talking about with me trying to explain in sign language what was going on. (Different times, different temples, same me, as I had not yet been to the temple myself)

When I got married, my wife’s father was unable to attend and was sitting in that waiting room, so once again, you have no idea what you are talking about.

From a Guys’ viewpoint:
The reception is more fun.
The food is at the reception.
The reception is where the pictures that you will look at for the rest of your lives will be taken will be taken.
The reception is more important to the Guy than the ceremony, except that the ceremony needs to happen.

You think I am being flip, well, I always am, but this is also true. There are more perspectives than yours. It seems to me that want everyone to agree with YOUR perspective, or else admit that they are wrong.

I have my own views and your perspective does not invalidate my views

This goes back to the whole reason this thread has gone on for so long. Here we are a group of people with differing perceptions of reality. One group trying to get the other to agree with their perceptions at all costs, the other group desperately struggling to protect their perspective thrust an parry, slice and block, feint and spin.

The funny thing is, both sides to me anyway, think they are the ones being attacked.

Of course I have my own perspective, so I am as guilty as the rest.

DU, all I can say to this reply is that you are completely overlooking my point that these parents that are excluded are loving, feeling people, and what should be a joyful occasion for them is instead hearbreaking. I won’t even address that bunch of spin in your reply except, oooohh beware the dreaded feminist!

Have you ever been to a Mormon Wedding Reception (rhetorical question)?

They aren’t fun! That is unless you like punch and cookies and shaking hands.

Ok I am guilty but I like to know more so I could correct my ways!:)