Posted on 04/11/2007 5:19:22 AM PDT by shrinkermd
ABSTRACT: In this meta-analysis of online dating and speed dating, we propose a corollary to the Flaw-O-Matic theory of romantic revulsion. Current research reveals that the Flaw-O-Matic, a mechanism in the brain that instantly finds fault with any potential mate, can be reoriented positively in certain conditions through a newly identified process, the Sally Field Effect.
...Just as Darwin could have predicted, the researchers have found that women are pickier than men. While men concentrate mainly on looks and will ask out a lot of women as long as they’re above a certain threshold of attractiveness, women focus on fewer prospects.
They’re less willing to date someone of another race. When using online services, they pay more attention than men do to a potential partner’s education, profession and income. They prefer taller men, but they’re willing to relax their standards for the Ron Perelmans of the world, as revealed in a study of more than 20,000 online daters by Gunter Hitsch and Ali Hortacsu of the University of Chicago and Dan Ariely of the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.
They found that a 5-foot-8 man was just as successful in getting dates as a 6-footer if he made more money — precisely $146,000 a year more. For a 5-foot-2 man, the number was $277,000. [For more of these trade-offs, see nytimes.com/tierneylab.]
...Being able to make this distinction in a four-minute speed date, the researchers write in the April issue of Psychological Science, “suggests that humans possess an impressive, highly attuned ability to assess such subtleties of romantic attraction. In fact, the need to feel special or unique could be a broad motivation that stretches across people’s social lives.”
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Yeah - right. And this will explain Mr Henfner and his three playmate “partners”
While that may be true of some women I seriously doubt it's true of most...and that it's certainly not true of women of quality.
That being said,I think it's reasonable for a woman to assess what kind of "provider" a guy would be.If he's a loser,a bum,a potential parasite....then a reasonable woman would steer clear.
OTOH,a woman who's expecting a guy to buy her Porches,a summer house on Martha's Vineyard,and diamonds as big as your fist should make a guy want to run away as fast as he can.
Run do not walk away.
I dated then lived with this one girl for many years. When i got laid-off my job wasn’t the only thing I lost.
I had started compiling a "female profile translator" for just such a purpose. For example:
"Friends first" - Let's see how generous you are before I touch you.
"I just want a nice guy" - I still haven't figured out how to avoid the idiot brutes.
"Income unimportant" - The fact that I mentioned income means that it is indeed important.
LOL! No sisters.
I remember when I was in HS how so many of my friends wouldn’t date a guy shorter than they were, but even then I never could figure out what the deal was. OTOH, I ran into a lot of guys that were intimidated by girls who were taller.
Don’t get me wrong, I always found it nicer to dance with a taller guy, but it was never on my list of priorities.
“Must make me laugh” - I’m so miserable in my own life that I require a source of constant entertainment. Oh, and no pressure, you’ll only have to be “on” as my jester when I’m awake.
I was naive enough at one time to think I actually had a chance with women who were taller. By the time they finished chopping me off at the knees, I was even shorter than before.
“Hypergamy refers to a system of practice of selecting a spouse of higher socio-economic status than oneself. Specifically, it refers to a widespread tendency amongst human cultures for females to seek or be encouraged to pursue male suitors that are comparatively older, wealthier or otherwise more privileged than themselves.”
Women, if left to nature, prefer to marry equally or up the scale. This means that very highly educated and successful women face a problem. It is also true of lower class women who choose not to marry someone who cannot or will not provide for them. Lower class men believe they have no great ability to move up the ladder; hence, you have 70% illegitimacy rates.
Incidentally, in studying primates one can clearly and closely correlate the body size difference between men and women to polygamous tendencies. For humans this results in men having weak polygamous tendencies—more than one but usually no more than three significant bondings. It matters little if these are all at once polygamous bondings or serial bondings (divorces). To be sure, individuals may overcome these patterns but only with some effort.
I knew a girl 5’10” she dated a Jockey. Of course he made a lot of money.
I have seen a lot of rich ugly guys with beautiful wives.
Never saw a poor ugly guy with a beautiful wife.
Good looking women go for the bucks, The more homely ones are willing to go for a guy with less.
In some cases women are willing to forego the money if the physical good looks and/or the physical sexual attributes are enough to make up for it. Thus the white women who date the black male. If the guy is a rich B-ball player so much the better.
OUCH.......
As my husband was fond of saying, “any woman interested in me for my money does not have high expectations.”
I grew up next door to a guy who had no looks,no personality...nothing.Well,actually,we was intelligent but that's it.
He got into Medical School and now has a top position at a major hospital.His wife is drop dead gorgeous.
WHY in the world did you write a check, though?
I can understand that. I had only one cardinal rule while I was dating...you could not be taller than me. I've gone on hundreds and hundreds of dates, but never with a woman taller than me.
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