Because of their relationship, I went too far the other way. I said I would never treat my husband with such a firm hand. However, this caused my husband to be overly spoiled and has taken advantage of my goodness over the years.
I loved just being a mother and wife, I was brought up to believe that is all I would ever be (don't do that to your daughters). I asked very little of my husband with respect to the children and our home. He never changed a diaper or fed them a bottle, I never asked him to, it was my responsibility. He doesn’t do housework, again because I just don’t ask him to. Maybe that is my fault. However, to be fair to him, he has always done all the grocery shopping and miscellaneous shopping, as I hated it. I still do.
When the children were ready for school, I went back to work as a Paralegal. I love my work and he has never asked me to quit. He loves to cook when he has time. He has been struggling with alcoholism for the last 10 years and it has been hard on our marriage. I took my vows of “till death do us part” very seriously and God has given me the strength to hang in there. As we promised, we are growing old together. I can't imagine not being married.
I do not have many women friends because I find most women to be very shallow and unfocused. I'm much more comfortable with men but only because I enjoy men's activities more than activities with women. I hate to shop and now that my children are raised and gone, I enjoy my quiet time with books and politics.
Women are not so complicated, most know how to love to their own detriment. Men take advantage of that point and some never quit dating even after marriage. At least, in my generation of women, I have found most women happy to raise their children and take care of their homes. I must say that the current generation of women, age 25 to 35, my daughter included, thinks quite differently. In many ways, it is all about them and what they want or can acquire. Some will never find happiness with a man if all they want to do is control the relationship, it works both ways.
My brother was 49 before he ever married. My son is 32, and says he won’t get married until he finds a woman like his Mom. He is a romantic and I hope he finds someone kind and gentle as that is his personality. Marriage can be very difficult at times and very joyful at times.
You get out of life what you are willing to put into it. A woman can either be a compliment to you or a real pain in the ass! I have seen both ends of the spectrum. Good luck to you!
I come from a broken family that as luck would have it, most of the kids are in stable,loving marriages.
It is nice to hear things like this and thanks for making my evening a happy one. You almost made me cry ;)
Arioch7