Posted on 03/17/2007 1:44:41 PM PDT by rface
how are you going to continue having a relationship with your cousin if you can't accept the person who is going to be with him for the rest of his life and you can't accept the fact that they are together? and if you boycott their wedding because of your disdain for their relationship, do you think they're going to want to continue seeing you, in return? what about if they adopt or foster kids? what about when they attend your family functions together? these are just a few of things you should probably be asking yourself, and i don't think anyone's personal opinion here is going to help you arrive at a decision.
i meant to write "is going to help you arrive at a decision (even though you've already arrived at one)". sorry.
Excellent post! I agree with kedd.
This is a hard one. My brother is gay and I could envision such a scenario in the future. I think this is one for hubby and I to discuss. I like the responses about going to the reception but not the "wedding". I'm just not sure. I can imagine if I said no in any form it would be a very very big deal in my family. But so would be attending a ceremony I knew to be flying in the face of what I believe... I can see why this would be a hard choice. Good luck!
If you do decide to go, be very wary of anyone wanting to push in your stool while you're at the bar.
Family first, always. Our Veep still loves his lesbian daughter...family first...always...
That was about the funniest thing on this nonsense thread....
#1: Blood is thicker than water. Your family will always be there for you.
#2: You've already validated their relationship as a couple by inviting them to attend your wedding. Therefore, there really is no dilemma. Go to the ceremony and reception and enjoy yourselves.
I agree with Mrs. Liberty. I know she would come to my wedding if I were marrying a female. Have a great time!
Would you go to a family member's wedding if the groom were marrying his own daughter? Supposing the bride is over 21, and they "really really love each other." All that matters is that they are in love, and they're family, right? If not, why would that be different from this case? Where would you draw the line? To attend a wedding is to celebrate someone's union. It's not like going to a movie. Either you believe this is immoral, or you don't.
You invited them to yours, so I don't understand why you are questioning what the right thing to do is now. I also don't understand your choice of keywords if you still don't know your answer.
If I were in your shoes, I'd tell my cousin that I disagree with what he's doing, but I would still go because he's family. A disagreement is not worth creating a schism in your family. Believe me, I know, and it's not worth it.
I never....not one time....asked anyone what the right thing to do was. I never asked for your advise -- I didn't ask a single FReeper for their advise. I decided what to do before I posted this thread. (Read my post before you post me a scolding reply)
To refresh your memory, the question is: What Would FReepers do?
I stated later in the thread that I am going. I didn't state what I was doing within the original post.
here's the part where I sheepishly admit I've been a FReeper for I-don't-recall-how-long, and did not know how keywords work. My apologies....
forgetaboutit. I have done worse
Good thread. I've read through it and its been an interesting and illuminating discussion.
Thanks for posting it.
sorry, that was a "baby shower"
You are not alone, although I'd rather go by God's values. That would include torture, murder, child abuse etc as abominations as well. It's not an either or.
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