It seems to me that the Jesuits are over-analyzing. The issue is sexual behavior. I don't think it is possible to 'check' your sexuality at the door to the seminary. What you do about your sexuality, in the light of celibacy, and purity of thought, should be the focus.
But then, all of the Jesuits I have met were gay, and not just in thought, BTW, but that is a long story.
Care to elaborate? I went through four years of Jesuit Prep school, and four years of Jesuit college. In that time, the only three individuals that I came across who were gay were all lay teachers. I did, however know at least a couple of Jesuits who were loose with their vows in the other direction. Imagine my suprise at bumping into a former teacher at Scores years later. His old mantra of "even those who are dieting are permitted to read the menu" came in handy.
When and where did you know any Jesuits, because my experience seems to have been very different from your own.