War is not a pretty thing, in fact it is quite brutal.
Many people in America as well as many FReepers don't have the stomach for war. They end up asking themselves questions (like you are) as if they are somehow trying to rationalize what all is happening. Osama Bin Laden spoke often about America not having the stomach for war and how to defeat America by capitalizing on this.
Personally I don't comprehend the incessant self-debasement and handwringing over the deaths of Iraqi civilians though?
Sad to say, but I don't see any "victims" on the battlefield in Iraq. I see a battlefield infested with suppliers, supporters, spies, sympathizers and opportunists who mascarade as the "innocent Iraqi victims"
When they are not lopping off heads, where do you think all these insurgents and so-called foreign fighters eat their meals, shop and sleep for the night.
They are provided safehouses and sanctuary by these so-called "Iraqi victims" who have learned to play the innocent victim card in front of the American forces there.
I don't think we have been brutal enough. I think that America's political correctness has turned much of the battlefield into nothing more than a macabre courthouse.
One of the Hussein boys had 36 people beheaded in front of him in 1 day. I don't know what his average was per day though, and I don't remember where I found this info.
I do remember starting up a personal spreadsheet on beheadings occurring in the world and why.
I quit keeping stats after it started to make me sick.
While it may be possible to understand that mindset, I don't want to. It is a good object lesson to remember, though when hit with some pacifistic rhetoric coming from a coworker trying to make an argument. If a person won't even consider the possibility of such behavior, their denial is their demise.