If you don't love your children and have a good enough relationship that you are glad to pay for any education they can get, then there are deeper problems.
I will be happy to do whatever I can forever for my daughters.
Well put.
"If you don't love your children and have a good enough relationship that you are glad to pay for any education they can get, then there are deeper problems. "
Love has nothing to do with money or this situation.
My sister-in-law said she would pay for junior college, but can not afford to pay for a 4 year private college plus living expenses.
How much love buys that?
Sometimes, you don't pay for it because you love them too much to do so.
If you raised a kid too irresponsible to pay their own way in a real subject, there are serious problems.
Yes but I see no reason in sending a child to college just so they can party. I think that happens frequently. It nearly did in my case, but at least I got out with a degree that enabled me to get a job and didn't major in art history and graduate with Cs. ha ha
Sometimes it has MUCH more to do with what is affordable, what is reasonable, and the extent to which the child belongs in college than whether or not you love them.
we have helped our kids with college, even though we insisted they take out loans so they have some ownership in what they are doing (or not doing!)
of course, we didn't subcumb to the parents loan trap that they keep trying to sell us.....we pay certain expenses and then we give money each month to help defray living expenses.....
why do we do it?...
to give them a handup in life.....to help them get started....because they couldn't get thru college unless someone helped with the expenses.....
people of middle age or older need to know that today's young people are going to need more finacial help then we did....they are saddled with high taxation and an illogical and discriminatory work place and we older people are just going have to help them more....
Wow.. that's a bit condescending, don't you think?
There are tons of loving parents out there that would love to pay for an education but can't. Then, there are those that won't waste a dime on junior because he's not motivated to follow through....and I can't say I blame them one bit. Sometimes it takes a few years for the "wild child" to settle down... and take education seriously. (Or when they figure out flipping burgers doesn't pay for dating AND rent) If they're interested later....then help defray the costs.