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Normally I would agree with you. I am always getting on to people who say "I wouldn't do that if I was them" because I don't think we always understand how others are feeling. Usually my objections are direct to those who criticize the behavior of people who's child has died. I lost a child and I understand better than someone who hasn't the emotions that you go through.

In this case the boy is obviously humiliated at watching his parents on Oprah while he is on TV. If the parents went on Oprah alone to give support to other parents who are missing children I would not object. But to drag the boy out in front of the camera, while they speculate about his homosexual rape, is cruel and inhuman.

I am VERY sorry for the loss of your child. It's one thing in life I never want to experience.

I personally don't understand what the parents are doing either, but I wouldn't say that publicly. However, I don't know all the circumstances and these parents have done nothing else that would lead me to make the accusations I've been reading on FR about them. They've been going public for years to get him back and I think this is probably a way to give encouragement to other parents who were experiencing what they were up to a week ago. I think a lot of people make decisions that in retrospect they would do differently and this could be one of them. I don't know. But I don't question their motives. I was haunted by the message Shawn left on their website about how long they were going to look for their son. This needs to be a time of healing and this young man must be hearing and reading all this criticism of his parents. I don't think it's good for them or more importantly, him.