I believe that a core source of this disfunctionality in the institution of marriage is the message from several sources (including a daytime radio show host which I won't name) which says that "men should sleep with as many women as possible in their 20s and not even think about marriage until they are 35..."
That makes for one whore of a man who simply cannot adapt to a serious, committed relationship in which he only sleeps with one woman... My roommate describes it like this: "Why just eat cheerios for the rest of your life if you can go to the grocery store and get froot loops, rice krispies, cocoa puffs, etc..."
And yes-- shame on the women they find to sleep around with that don't demand more... But, this message that comes across from these talk show hosts, rap songs, anc celebritis needs to be quenched, and how will that happen without a strong father figure for kids now???
Oh, and by the way river rat, I happen to be an intelligent, attractive, non-pierced, non-tatooed, non-golddigging woman in her 20s who cannot find a date to save my life that will even open a door for me...So no, I wouldn't mind living alone if this is the only gene pool I have to pick from.
I'll buy you dinner Skipper. The entire War against love is maddening
You're right on several levels..
The quality of the pool of young men today -- is declining every bit as fast as the one for women...
The feminist movement and the emasculation of the American male is partly responsible... Then our "entertainment" industry and MSM pushing for the "cool" metrosexual male - who has found his feminine side -- is a freak to be avoided....
There are still MEN out there... They may not be in the numbers they use to be -- but there are certainly enough to go around for the women who would appreciate them... They're not always the "cutest" or the richest -- but they're men you can count on..
Of course I'm biased -- but find some way to get yourself introduced to some single young Marines.... It's not hard to get into the loop through official Marine Corps activities, families and links... If you've got a Veteran's hospital within a reasonable drive -- spend a Sunday morning there with the men going through rehab... You'll never know who you'll meet....
It used to amaze me in my younger days -- just how hard some lovely and respectable young ladies would work to become volunteers with USO or Toys for Tots or to work on the preparations for the Marine Corps Birthday Ball or to work as volunteer aids at the Veteran Hospitals to meet and help returning wounded Marines from Vietnam...
If I were single and 50 years younger - I'd give you a call!
Semper Fi
This didn't happen on a date but I had a guy purposely let go of a door on me as I was going in to a place of business. Thankfully I reached out and caught it in time before it smacked me in the face. He was laughing. It's ugly out there.