Absolutely correct. And the young women don't get it! Case-in-point. Seemingly nice girl, college grad working girl, lives next door. Asks us to watch her cat. She found 'the one' and he is bringing her to Hawaii for Christmas. "How long have you known him?" my husband asks. "Two weeks" she replies. They went and 2-3 months later he was no longer coming around.
Scenario is repeated somewhat as time goes on. No more vacations, but guys stay over her house after limited dating then disappear.
We have noticed that she rarely stops to speak to us anymore. She is embarressed I tell my husband.
Her sexual behavior is flawed, but she is well spoken, does not curse, is not crass, dresses nicely and her parents are nice (from New England area, so liberal I suspect). She wants what most young woman want now that she has graduated and landed a nice job. She wants a serious relationship and marriage to a solid, supportive young man.
I could tell her that her chances of growing old with a committed partner are slim to none and could even indicate what I view as the problem. But I won't as she doesn't ask and it is not my job to interject my opinion into her life. But she is not happy and I feel her loose behavior has a direct bearing on her future. Once she reaches 30 her chances deminish with every year, unless she finds a trophy wife situation, IMHO.
The damage has been done, indoctrination is complete and there seems to be no way to rescue these girls.
Woman's Lib brought them sexual freedom but they gave up certain satisfying and happy relationships as a result. I'm not so sure that simple marriage is an answer, as the lack of value and respect they place on their most intimate of gifts has been translated through their e-z behavior, and will surely be returned as a lack of respect by a partner.
Grandmom was right. If someone loves you, they will wait.
"Woman's Lib brought them sexual freedom but they gave up certain satisfying and happy relationships as a result. I'm not so sure that simple marriage is an answer, as the lack of value and respect they place on their most intimate of gifts has been translated through their e-z behavior, and will surely be returned as a lack of respect by a partner."
Women are completely and utterly on the short end of the stick these days. The sad part is that most don't even realize it. They won't even acknowledge the problem.
I think that deep down, almost all women want a long term, committed relationship to someone. They might not be able to articulate that in so many words, but I think the emotional desire is definitely there. The problem is that with the loose sexuality and the toxic legal environmnet, fewer men are willing to buy into what they view as The Marriage Trap.
In the last 20 years I've seen this go from the complaints of a few men, to the level of undisputed folk wisdom. Marriage is viewed as a raw deal for men. Or to use the oft quoted phrase: "don't buy the cow if all you want is a little milk."