[TheWriterTX]

At the beginning of my marriage, I used to believe that the submissive role the church encouraged was so much antiquated nonsense. Then I tried it for a little while - letting my husband be the man and wear the pants, make the decisions, handle the money, etc., instead of wanting a more modern relationship.

Ironically, once I surrendered "power" in our relationship, he did more for me than ever before. Since I was going out of my way to please him, he went out of his way to please me.

The biggest part of this whole evolution in our relationship, though, came from my realization that I was not just telling him I trusted him, I was showing him I trusted him. And, thankfully, since I had married a wonderful man, I COULD trust him.

Far too many folks overlook the warning signs of danger before marrying - which is why they end up in trainwrecks in the marriage several years down the road.

You are absolutely right, though. It is 100:100. Best line of the day, IMO.

[null and void]

Far too many folks overlook the warning signs of danger before marrying - which is why they end up in trainwrecks in the marriage several years down the road.

Guilty as charged...

You are absolutely right, though. It is 100:100. Best line of the day, IMO.

Thanks!

[Cogadh na Sith]

The biggest part of this whole evolution in our relationship, though, came from my realization that I was not just telling him I trusted him, I was showing him I trusted him. And, thankfully, since I had married a wonderful man, I COULD trust him.

Yeah! The antidote to the typical American wife--sounds like my wife!

God Bless you.

[MarkL]

At the beginning of my marriage, I used to believe that the submissive role the church encouraged was so much antiquated nonsense. Then I tried it for a little while - letting my husband be the man and wear the pants, make the decisions, handle the money, etc., instead of wanting a more modern relationship.

A former boss of mine used to "wear the pants in his family." Of course, his wife would pick them out for him...

Mark

[SauronOfMordor]

Ironically, once I surrendered "power" in our relationship, he did more for me than ever before. Since I was going out of my way to please him, he went out of his way to please me.

The secret to a happy marriage (and it's inverse is the cause of many unhappy marriages). Rather than demanding that your spouse make you happy, give your spouse what your spouse desires, and see if just maybe that results in you getting what you want without having to demand so hard

[The Spirit Of Allegiance]

"Ironically, once I surrendered "power" in our relationship, he did more for me than ever before. Since I was going out of my way to please him, he went out of his way to please me."

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AMEN. I'm praying for a woman with a heart like that. 100% given by each, both preferring the other while keeping in mind that God ultimately holds the husband responsible as head of the relationship.

[Steve Van Doorn]

"Ironically, once I surrendered "power" in our relationship, he did more for me than ever before. Since I was going out of my way to please him, he went out of his way to please me."

You got it.
The best relationships is based on trust if the women isn't willing to give her trust then the relationship is beat from the begining.

[OKIEDOC]

Really nice post.

As a certified marriage counselor you may have hit the nail squarely on the old head so to speak.