"It's a shame you are so ignorant on the subject. I'm sorry, but you are dead wrong."
I don't have a child with ADD, but right now we are trying to figure out what is wrong with my 5 yr. old now.
So far the testing is pointing to a "central processing disorder."
We haven't had to deal with the issue of meds as apparantly this problem can be addressed with therapy.
He is one of 7 children...all of whom have been "parented" the same way - and yet is VERY different from his siblings.
Those who want to chalk many of these problems solely to "bad parenting" have definitely NOT walked in these parents' shoes.
My oldest boy was an ADD handful, but his younger bro drove me to distraction. He didn't sleep four hours out of 24 until he was over two years old-that in half hour increments- and Houdini in his wildest dreams was never as good as my son. There wasn't anything he couldn't get out of. We had a dimestore parakeet that repeated endlessly-Close the frig-close the door-and then he screamed my son's name in the exact tone I used. This started when my son was about 6 months old. It got to the point that I left a sippy cup of milk in the frig and a bowl of cereal on the table. I can laugh about it now, but he very nearly killed me. ADD manifests different ways in different kids. Shrug.
Good luck getting your kids situation figured out. We used meds as a last resort. Like I said, only 25% of my offspring have ADHD, so I can't really figure out how bad parenting comes into play there. She was my first, too, the one who got the most direct 1 on 1 attention, and still demands the most attention because of behavior difficulties.
Good luck! feel free to keep me posted with your kids progress.
Dyslexia?