"Most of the women that post on FR have at least some college education, many have advanced degrees, and a lot are professionals."
And if they actually wanted to use that education for something other than the local PTA, then I believe that they should be working or at least planning to go back to work than when their kids get older. I'd never think about blowing upwards of $70,000 on a Mrs. Degree.
"Raising children is more than just dumping them off at the day care."
Of course, but shouldn't both parents be making sacrifices to raise their children, not just the mother?? Also, if a couple decides to have someone stay home with the children, why couldn't it be the father?? Please explain to me why it is always the women who has to give up her career entirely.
Moreover, some couples can't even consider having one parent stay home with the kids. They need both incomes in order to pay the mortgage, the car payments, food, insurance, etc.
"The consequences of not following God's blueprint for a happy marriage and bringing up a family are tragic."
Yep, God's plan for woman is for her to be a stay-at-home mom. That kinda goes against the idea of God and equality that I've always had.
"The consequences of not following God's blueprint for a happy marriage and bringing up a family are tragic."
Yep, God's plan for woman is for her to be a stay-at-home mom. That kinda goes against the idea of God and equality that I've always had
Well it may be God's blueprint, but he's not the general contractor.
What's so bad about a highly educated woman raising children? At the very least her kids are likely to get the benefit of that education. Once I have kids I'm not planning to work. Maybe when the kids are gone, I'll go back. Maybe I'll work from home. Who knows. But once there are kids, they're our first priority. I'll make the sacrifice of not working (oh, gosh, big one). My husband will make sacrifices to make sure I can stay home.
He could stay home if that's how we wanted it. But my career is much more likely to let me work from home than his. And I want to stay home with our kids. I think that's the optimum solution. I wonder if perhaps your outlook will change when you meet someone? Though if you only date people like yourself I can see problems.
You'd say my time in school was wasted since I plan to ditch the rat race for kids. I'd disagree. I was self-supportive before meeting my husband, rather than living off my parents, I have the ability to support a family if something should happen to my faily, and I have the knowledge that the degree represents.
I'm just not sure why you can't accept that staying home with kids is something intelligent women can decide they want to do. Isn't that the beauty of this country, that we have these choices?
There is no need to try and open you eyes to the real world.
Maria
It certainly could be either sex who decides to stay at home and raise the children. Many of us have a bias for the woman staying home because that's the system we benefited from growing up. Familiarity is good, mystery is unnerving at times.
I don't like to be with a woman with a demanding career in any instance because they are usually unavailable (severe time demands of career), and unreliable (many sudden late nights at work, missed meals, broken dates, etc.).
I don't want a companion I just can't count on. Many men don't want that. Many women don't want that in a mate, either.
I categorically reject women who I can't count on to be on time, keep dates, show up for meals, etc. An absentee companion or spouse just sucks. Many people have no patience for it.