Posted on 11/26/2006 5:02:22 AM PST by shrinkermd
If you still decide that you want a child and you are single, I have one suggestion: adopt. Instead of bringing a baby into a 1 parent household, you would be providing a parent to a child who doesn't have one. It's a win-win situation.
Wow, what a sad statement... Here I am, a female college-educated programmer and all I can think about constantly is staying home and having children. But I guess I'm just submissive and uneducated....
I cooked pot roast last week. It's really easy, and you can do most of the work beforehand. I also cooked pot roasts when I was a single working woman. I actually cooked more when I was a single working woman. I don't have as much time now that I have 3 kids.
Did I forget to mention your obvious, in-your-face anger?
Hi fellow female college educated programmer. Isn't it sad to be such a repressed and brainwashed little feminist robot that we think there's something better than the rat race waiting for us?
Indeed. You need to attend some NOW meetings to get your head straight.
If I'm reading this thread correctly, you're being oppressed by patriarchal societal norms, but you're to stupid to know it.
I could be wrong though. I have no MBA, and I'm just a stupid engineer.
Is it pitiful if I admit that your experience right here is about 50% of the reason why I went back to work? LOL!
We've spent so long looking at the cost of everything, and debating which one of the parents were going to go to the movies, or the circus because it just costs so doggone much. I want my whole paycheck (minus a reasonable savings) to pay for fun!
I want for all of us to go to the movies together more than once per year. I want to go to a nice restaurant for no more reason than I feel like it! I want vacations.
We're getting there!
Especially since the "demand" didn't work all that well then, and certainly doesn't work now.
Suze Orman says, "Money is coined liberty".
I can say this because I know she'll never see it. [ducks]
See? Wanting someone else to cook doesn't always mean it will happen. ;)
Well, it worked for my wife! ;-)
Yes, I find it very sad that many women feel they must constantly obsess over their careers and never consider staying at home being simply a wife and mother. But, you know, if it makes them happy, that's wonderful.
I just wish people wouldn't paint with a broad brush to stereotype all SAHMs at uneducated yes-women. But, truly, do we care what other people think of us? The opinions that matter most to me are mine and my husband's opinions.
Oh, I just wander everywhere but homeschooling and social threads like this tend to catch my attention.
I started a new job today and I didn't thaw anything for dinner so my hubby and I will be eating tv dinners after karate. I don't mind too much though, I'll make something really good tomorrow to make up. This job is going to be somewhat fun and pay well and look great on a resume but fulfill me? You've got to be joking.
I'm intelligent and my husband respects that - he's not going to start thinking of me as a doormat as soon as I have kids. That would be stupid. What sort of man would want his kids raised by an idiot, anyway? Well, I guess if your choices are angry feminist career woman or ditzy housewife you might have to settle but there are plenty of us level-headed women who see the world in more than black and white.
The Marxist term was "false consciousness" and the NOW types liked to engage in "consciousness raising" to overcome it.
One wonders why the 60s feminists felt compelled to use Marxist terminology.
Could be most of the leaders were closet Marxists seeing themselves as the revolutionary vanguard possessing what Thomas Sowell termed the Vision of the Annointed.
You may be correct, but let me clue you in to the real world, at least as I know it.
I have a niece in first grade taking two dance lessons a week, because she wants to follow in my daughter's footsteps, and be a "Coppell Lariette". The drill team competes in national competitions every year, and the competition to make the team is fierce! 75% of the young ladies on the team have been in dance lessons since they were in pre-kinder.
When it comes to sports, ANY sport, the kids who make the team normally have been playing in organized leagues from age 7 or 8. For baseball and hockey, the choices are more pronounced: elite players sometimes have to choose between their HS team, or their (elite) traveling league.
During my son's HS career, he's played trumpet in the band. Their travels have included trips to Dublin, Ireland, London, San Antonio (several times), Corpus Christi, and they'll perform in Washington, DC in April.
Frankly, I think that many of those kids do the activities for their parents, not because the kids want to.
Accygirl, I strongly recommend that you make a trip to Texas during football season. The pomp and pageantry on Friday nights might dispel you of that notion: the football teams, the bands, the color guards, the drill teams, the cheerleaders.
Add to that the parents who cheer their sons and daughters on, and the younger kids who aspire to be part of the fun on Friday nights. It's a positive kind of peer pressure that propels these young men and women, instead of merely doing it to please Mom & Dad.
There are other components in relation to the security besides money. Get a clue.
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