[Accygirl]

I don't want someone who chooses as their job to be a burger flipper for the rest of their lives nor do I want my child to grow up thinking that that sort of career path is okay. Men like that aren't good role models for children. I do believe that a person's motivation and desire to do something with their lives should be the top thing that one looks for in a marriage. For many women, especially career women, it is the top criteria. However, too many guys still seem fixated on a trophy wife or 1950s sitcom wife...

Moreover, what the hell would I have in common with a guy who flips burgers for a living... Exactly nothing. I enjoy going to museums and concerts and other intellectual pursuits. I don't think that someone who flips burgers for a living would enjoy these things.

[Campion]

Men like that aren't good role models for children.

In other words, given a choice as a role model for children between someone who is honest, kind, loving, generous, Godly, and flips burgers for a living, versus Ken Lay ... you'd choose Ken Lay?

When you get around to the idea that you need to hold the father of your children as indispensable to them as you are, and when you get around to the idea that men aren't just meal tickets any more than women are just cooks, you will have made some progress.