"I work with a woman who's daughter is on her HS wrestling team. She's actually proud of the fact that her little emancipated princess is "undefeated" because no coach with any sense of decency will let a teenaged boy get in the ring with her. "
There are several girls on HS wrestling teams here in Minnesota. No defaults, either. They have to wrestle the boys. Sometimes they win...sometimes they lose.
It's an accepted practice here, as are girls as placekickers on football teams. One team here has two girls as placekickers, and they're darned good. Several wins have come from their efforts.
I would seriously wonder about any boy who lost a wrestling match to a girl of the same weight as him. Boys have a tremendous advantage in upper body strength.
Also, when I wrestled in HS, there was a lot of grabbing going on between the legs. It is entirely innappropriate for HS girls to be wrestling with HS boys.