Most of the gays I know are swishy types. I see a lot of them. Most of the lesbians are very butch, although I have recently encountered a couple of cuties. That's my personal experience. Now, back to your diatribe...
Having lived in CA for quite a few years, I've seen plenty of shaved headed, leather clad, clanking with chains and metal type male homosexuals. What to speak of the trans-this and that. It ain't normal, and no one is born that way.