Like we can help it? I try not to look, but it's impossible.
Women want it both ways, as usual (and that's fine!). But when I see a young woman tugging at her top, trying to cover the small of her back (often as not tatooed nowadays) or otherwise acting self-conscious about her inadequate clothing, I have to ask: `darling, who told you to wear that miniskirt, anyway?'
All the while, I'm praying silently: 'I thank Thee, Lord, for granting Thy humble servant this vision of some of the beautiful things which Thou hast made!"
;^)
You try not to get busted!
Her: "You undressed me with your eyes."
Him: "We're way past the undressing part. Cigarette?"
Of course you can't help it. You're a man. That's the way God made your brain. I like men just fine the way they are and wouldn't change a thing about them.
But there is a BIG difference between looking at a woman, noticing her various physical attributes, acknowledging her beauty, and leering. The guy who leers is a jerk. He looks at a woman slowly and carefully, focusing on her breasts and crotch. He gets a slow sideways smile on his face. He drops his eyelids. His breathing may change as if he's getting sexually aroused. His mouth opens a little. His face and body language say, "Spread your legs." It's not just disgusting, it's alarming, because the man who looks this way looks no different than the man who is about to pounce or grab. That's offensive because it's millimeters away from being frightening.
This is very different from the man whose facial expression says, "You're a beautiful lady and I admire the way you look." Only a prude or feminist objects to a man who conveys that message.
Agreed, impossible.