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Pleasure Marriages in Sunni and Shi'ite Islam
MEMRI ^ | 9-14-06 | Aluma Dankowitz

Posted on 09/14/2006 6:03:38 AM PDT by SJackson

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1 posted on 09/14/2006 6:03:39 AM PDT by SJackson
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To: SJackson

Another term for an affair.


2 posted on 09/14/2006 6:05:51 AM PDT by standingfirm
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Footnotes in next post. In case anyone is interested. It's just a different culture, please don't be judgemental.

Egyptian doctor, 45, seeks pretty, white Saudi woman from Jeddah, age 28-40, for misyar marriage. I will visit her twice a week.

Saudi clerk, 38, from a well-known family, seeks pretty, white, delicate businesswoman or clerk for misyar marriage. With Allah's help, if things work out, the marriage will be official.

Young religious man, 29, working in the UAE, seeks misyar marriage with pretty, religious girl from a well-known tribe, age 14-19. I will pay her 1000 dirhams a month


3 posted on 09/14/2006 6:07:07 AM PDT by SJackson (The Pilgrims—Doing the jobs Native Americans wouldn't do!)
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Footnotes:

[1] The term misyar in colloquial Arabic in the Gulf states means "visit." The term shows that these marriages are based on visits by the husband to the wife, and not on life together in one home. In other Arab states the phenomenon also exists, but is called by other names. See Al-Riyadh (Saudi Arabia), April 30, 2006; Al-Arabiyya TV, April 28, 2006.

[2] The Saudi daily Al-Watan, for example, reported on emails offering services providing religiously valid misyar marriages to a virgin for 4,500 riyals, and to a non-virgin for 3,000 riyals. See Al-Watan (Saudi Arabia), April 29, 2006.

[3] http://www.themwl.org/Fatwa/default.aspx?d=1&cidi=162&l=AR&cid=13, April 10, 2006.

[4] The phenomenon of the "older single woman" is extremely widespread in Arab society. Saudi author Maram ‘Abd Al-Rahman Makawi has pointed out a number of the main causes of the problem in Saudi society: objections on the part of the woman's guardian to her marriage due to tribal, regional, racial, color, or familial considerations; objections to her marrying a non-professional or a manual laborer; exaggerated dowry demands; objections to her marrying someone she loves in order to punish her; and objections to her marrying a non-Saudi. See Al-Watan (Saudi Arabia), March 5, 2006.

Divorce is also very common in Arab society. The novel Girls of Riyadh, by Saudi author Rajaa Al-Sanie, focuses on the difficulties faced by divorced women. The book tells of the love lives of four young Saudi women attending the University of Riyadh. Two of them are divorced, one of whom was in a marriage arranged by her family after meeting her future husband only once. She moved with her husband to Chicago, so that he could complete his studies, but her husband showed no interest in her and had an affair with a Japanese-American woman. She became pregnant in order to try to win his affection, but after hearing the news her husband divorced her and sent her back to her parents in Riyadh, with her child, where her family prevented her from leaving the house so as to avoid gossip. Another girl had been engaged to a man who divorced her because she gave herself to him before their official wedding ceremony; she then fell in love with an upper-class Saudi bachelor who would not marry her because she was divorced. After he married a cousin of his, he offered to continue their relationship, but she refused, and ended up marrying her cousin. The other two girls also had many troubles in their personal lives, and only one had a happy end to her story. For a complete synopsis of the book, see www.rajaa.net/v2/english.htm .

[5] http://www.themwl.org/Fatwa/default.aspx?d=1&cidi=162&l=AR&cid=13, April 10, 2006.

[6] The examples here are taken from the matchmaking website http://stones.jeeran.com/%D9%86%D8%A7%D8%AF%D9%8A%20%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%AA%D8%B9%D8%A7%D8%B1%D9%81%20%D9%88%D8%A7%D9%84%D8%B5%D8%AF%D8%A7%D9%82%D9%87/index.html. The site provides participants' email addresses and sometimes their telephone numbers.

[7] Al-Sharq Al-Awsat (London), April 25, 2006.

[8] Al-Madina (Saudi Arabia), July 13, 2006.

[9] 'Okaz (Saudi Arabia), June 6, 2006.

[10] 'Okaz (Saudi Arabia), June 6, 2006, May 30, 2006.

[11] http://www.aljazeera.net/channel/archive/archive?ArchiveId=90777

[12] Other differences between misyar marriage and mut'a marriage were discussed by Saudi university lecturer and cleric Dr. Muhammad Al-Nujeimi. In addition to the fact that misyar marriage is not - in contrast to mut'a marriage - limited in time, and divorce is required in the event of separation, in misyar marriage the man is forbidden from taking more than four wives, and if one of the spouses dies, the other has the right of inheritance. However, in mut'a marriage, Dr. Al-Nujeimi explains, the man can take more than four wives, because the marriage is not a complete marriage, as it lacks proper foundation and proper religious legal conditions and thus there is no right of inheritance between the spouses. See www.itijahat.com/news/news_p12.htm .

[13] Al-Riyadh (Saudi Arabia), June 5, 2006.

[14] Al-Watan (Saudi Arabia), April 26, 2006.

[15] Al-Ittihad (UAE), May 15, 2006.

[16] The Washington Post (U.S.), June 29, 2006, http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2006/06/29/AR2006062900063_pf.html http://www.zu.ac.ae/leadership2006/roladashti.aspx

[17] Elaph, April 18, 2006.

[18] 'Okaz (Saudi Arabia), June 20, 2006.


4 posted on 09/14/2006 6:07:44 AM PDT by SJackson (The Pilgrims—Doing the jobs Native Americans wouldn't do!)
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To: SJackson
"Such marriages are aimed primarily at meeting the needs of young Muslims in the West, who are influenced by male-female relations around them but who want their relationships to have religious legitimacy."

< Islam, the bankrupt religion.

5 posted on 09/14/2006 6:08:08 AM PDT by Rb ver. 2.0
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To: standingfirm
Another term for an affair.

In some cases. This one would go a bit beyond an affair, prostitution, molestation and/or statutory rape come to mind. Young religious man, 29, working in the UAE, seeks misyar marriage with pretty, religious girl from a well-known tribe, age 14-19. I will pay her 1000 dirhams a month

6 posted on 09/14/2006 6:09:21 AM PDT by SJackson (The Pilgrims—Doing the jobs Native Americans wouldn't do!)
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To: SJackson
Such marriages are aimed primarily at meeting the needs of young Muslims in the West, who are influenced by male-female relations around them but who want their relationships to have religious legitimacy.

Yeah, let's bend the religion to fit our "needs". I don't suppose they would like to ordain women, as well?

7 posted on 09/14/2006 6:10:56 AM PDT by Izzy Dunne (Hello, I'm a TAGLINE virus. Please help me spread by copying me into YOUR tag line.)
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To: standingfirm
Before their LIBERATION BY AMERICA:


After LIBERATION (mis-stated as 'occupation' by the traitorous seditious MSM)


8 posted on 09/14/2006 6:11:16 AM PDT by Diogenesis (Igitur qui desiderat pacem, praeparet bellum)
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To: SJackson
Pleasure Marriages in Sunni and Shi'ite Islam

Sharia allows marriages to farm animals? Who knew?

9 posted on 09/14/2006 6:13:43 AM PDT by RichInOC ("Lovin' ewe is easy 'cause ewe're beautiful...makin' love with ewe is all I want to do...")
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To: Rb ver. 2.0

There ain't no such thing.


10 posted on 09/14/2006 6:19:02 AM PDT by Eric in the Ozarks (BTUs are my Beat.)
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To: jan in Colorado

ping


11 posted on 09/14/2006 6:20:12 AM PDT by Gondring (If "Conservatives" now want to "conserve" our Constitution away, then I must be a Preservative!)
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To: SJackson

A contractual extra-marital affair complete with binding waivers and hold harmless agreements.


12 posted on 09/14/2006 6:26:07 AM PDT by The G Man (The NY Times did "great harm to the United States" - President George W. Bush 6/26/06)
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To: SJackson
Muslim men just love walking in cleats over women, don't they?.

Where's feminist Gloria Steinem on this subject?

Oh wait, she's busy setting up the new feminazi radio network with that other matrimonial expert, Jane Fonda..........another marriage made in the netherworld (or maybe Muslimistan).

Leni

13 posted on 09/14/2006 6:29:07 AM PDT by MinuteGal (Israel, Hold Firm !................No Retreat means No Repeat !)
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To: SJackson

So ..its just another way of saying shacking up. The fact that Islam condones this type of relationship says a lot about its moral principles and attitudes toward women.


14 posted on 09/14/2006 6:30:33 AM PDT by The Great RJ ("Mir wölle bleiwen wat mir sin" or "We want to remain what we are." ..Luxembourg motto)
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To: Izzy Dunne
"let's bend the religion to fit our "needs"."

If you study the life of mohammed (curses be upon him and may he clean pigstyes in Hell) you can quickly see that the entire cult of islam is built on "revelations from God" to suit mohammed's(cbuh) needs at the time. That's why so much of the koran is insanely contradictory with its self!
15 posted on 09/14/2006 6:33:22 AM PDT by ROLF of the HILL COUNTRY ( ISLAMA DELENDA NECCES EST!)
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To: SJackson
This jumped out at me:

 "The media attack has turned polygamy into a grave crime. The woman thinks that if her husband takes another wife, it is a death sentence for her. How, then, can he tell her this? He doesn't want to kill her, and does this [secretly] in order to protect her, since she will object to this and will perhaps collapse... In this situation, there is nothing preventing him from marrying and hiding it from his wife..."

What a farked up cult this is. 

16 posted on 09/14/2006 6:37:45 AM PDT by zeugma (I reject your reality and substitute my own in its place. (http://www.zprc.org/))
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To: Diogenesis

LOL! Taliban singles online !! Very funny!!


17 posted on 09/14/2006 6:45:27 AM PDT by standingfirm
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To: SJackson

Defining deviancy down. - Hypocrisy of the highest order.
Evil under any other name stinks just as badly.


18 posted on 09/14/2006 6:55:12 AM PDT by Twinkie (Faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God.)
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To: standingfirm
Yep, that's exactly what this is, the only difference is the woman's family is aware of it.

On the other hand, perhaps this is what young Saudis need to keep them from becoming terrorists. It is a sanctioned sexual outlet.

19 posted on 09/14/2006 6:55:47 AM PDT by McGavin999 (Richard Armitage is a sniveling COWARD!)
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To: SJackson
Hypocrisy...this cult is shameless.
20 posted on 09/14/2006 7:17:24 AM PDT by ThisLittleLightofMine
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