[Mr. Silverback]

So often we hear of kids given up for adoption who resent the birth parents' decision.

I met one (who shall remain nameless) here on FR a few weeks ago who was ultra-bitter, and believed there was nothing worse than being deprived of the birth mother's presence. When I pointed out that two loving, financially stable parents will always be better than one parent struggling in poverty, she acted as if I was saying money was more important than love. Very sad.

[hardworking]

I met one (who shall remain nameless) here on FR a few weeks ago who was ultra-bitter

And I know someone who would give anything if her birth mother HAD given her up for adoption rather than subjecting her to a life of child abuse cruelty. It is all very sad.

[Sans-Culotte]

I met one (who shall remain nameless) here on FR a few weeks ago who was ultra-bitter, and believed there was nothing worse than being deprived of the birth mother's presence. When I pointed out that two loving, financially stable parents will always be better than one parent struggling in poverty, she acted as if I was saying money was more important than love. Very sad.

My wife was adopted. While she wonders why she was given up, she has never obsessed about it. She was born before abortion became legal, but is grateful that she had a chance at life, and I am thankful thet she lived to be my wife.

Anyone who was given up for adoption in this age of abortion should certainly be thankful they were brought up by adoptive parents, rather than ending up in a dumpster.

[GretchenM]

Perhaps that adoptee never felt truly loved by the adopting parents; perhaps the birth mother hated being pregnant and rejected the child with the severest emotional investment in the hating, passing on rejection to her daughter before birth, and the daughter never could find a way to make peace with all of it.