I can certainly understand your point of view concerning a father's or grandfather's financial assistance to offspring. That said, my father, who also came from nothing and built his own wealth, contributed nothing to my support and education following my 18th year. He believed it would weaken me to not do for myself. I never held that against him and have always loved him. I believe a parent's only primary obligation to children is to feed, clothe, house and protect them until they reach maturity. All else, IMO, is optional.