This baby isn't a newborn, it may not fall under the same Safe Haven laws. A parent can be arrested for abandoning a child in a hospital if there is no such law, or if the child is older.
Good. Then let them be arrested. At least then someone with a clear head will intervene in what is potentially a dangerous situation for that baby.
Perhaps. Not sure on the laws and they vary from state to state. She does have the option of putting the child in foster care. Not the best option, but the child can't possibly be thriving with a mother who has such an attitude, and could realistically be at risk of serious harm. With the child in foster care, Mom would have the option of regrouping, getting some counseling and deciding she wanted to be a mother after all and, if not, hubby would have the option of putting some action behind his insistance on keeping the child. One of two things would likely happen with the parents. 1, they'd go back to being all about themselves and give the child up, either willingly or by default (likely, from the sounds of it and based on my experience), or 2, Their conscience would get the better of them and they'd realize how selfish they were being and work at getting her back (much less likely given their apparent absence of values) . In any event, it would force them to commit one way or the other. Mom would be on the child abuse registry for abandonment for a period of time, but wouldn't face criminal charges.
On the other hand, Dad could tell Mom to take a hike and do whatever he needed to do to get his daughter back. If he really wants her (I'm not willing to accept, based simply on the words of his obviously disturbed wife, that he also can't stand his child), he is not going to allow the selfishness of his wife to stand in the way. I don't look for this marriage to last anyway. If there was truly love in the marriage, wouldn't they both cherish the fruit of that love?
Perhaps. Not sure on the laws and they vary from state to state. She does have the option of putting the child in foster care. Not the best option, but the child can't possibly be thriving with a mother who has such an attitude, and could realistically be at risk of serious harm. With the child in foster care, Mom would have the option of regrouping, getting some counseling and deciding she wanted to be a mother after all and, if not, hubby would have the option of putting some action behind his insistance on keeping the child. One of two things would likely happen with the parents. 1, they'd go back to being all about themselves and give the child up, either willingly or by default (likely, from the sounds of it and based on my experience), or 2, Their conscience would get the better of them and they'd realize how selfish they were being and work at getting her back (much less likely given their apparent absence of values) . In any event, it would force them to commit one way or the other. Mom would be on the child abuse registry for abandonment for a period of time, but wouldn't face criminal charges.
On the other hand, Dad could tell Mom to take a hike and do whatever he needed to do to get his daughter back. If he really wants her (I'm not willing to accept, based simply on the words of his obviously disturbed wife, that he also can't stand his child), he is not going to allow the selfishness of his wife to stand in the way. I don't look for this marriage to last anyway. If there was truly love in the marriage, wouldn't they both cherish the fruit of that love?