I understand what you said and why. I really feel the same way, but reality seems to be taking away any of the possible good outcomes that I had once hoped possible using standard military responses and modern ethics.
Our Constitution and our way of life is on the chopping block, or better said, "WILL BE". At some point, a future president will have to make a very difficult decision, but at the time he or she makes it, it will be with the total blessings of the public.
This is something completely new, so the answers aren't "handy", nor easily forthcoming. And that is one reason why people who condemn the president for not doing enough or doing too much, are in the wrong and since they don't have anything better to offer, they should just keep quiet and we should all pull together. Sadly, the way things are now, I don't see that happening.
What the future holds, none of us can accurately predict. We'll just have to see what comes along.