Women Good, Men Bad?

The Reality Check ^ | July 26, 2006 | Carey Roberts

[FreeManDC]

It’s about time that we probe an assumption that has insidiously worked its way into our culture -- the notion that women are the guardians of goodness and grace, while all those male neanderthals are emissaries from the dark side.

I will freely admit that men indulge in a number of vices, those including gluttony, greed, and of course forgetting to put the toilet seat down. Growing up in the halcyon days of the Patriarchy, I was treated to my fair share of ribald humor. But nothing quite prepared me for what I saw a couple weeks ago.

Strolling at the local mall I spotted a young lass, maybe 13 years old. She was sporting a white T-shirt with an unusual picture. The shirt depicted a girl cold-cocking a boy. Above the how-to diagram were etched these words: “How to Drop a Boyfriend.”

For the last decade, we’ve been hearing the mantra, “There’s no excuse for domestic violence.” So how could anyone even think of wearing a shirt like that?

Of course the Lavender Ladies have long scorned traditional notions of feminine virtue. In her book Feminist Morality, Virginia Held haughtily dismisses the ideal of the unselfish, nurturing, and non-aggressive woman as “the whole female stereotype.”

So now we must ask, What happens to common morality when selfishness, aggressiveness, and all-around oafishness are held up as the cultural ideal for newly-liberated women?

I’m not going to dwell on the abortion issue. That’s because no one, not even the most rabid feminist, will claim that baby-killing is a virtuous action. Their excuse is that we must allow abortion so as to not put a crimp on a woman’s lifestyle options.

Let’s agree to put that one in the “selfish” category.

And what about our epidemic of hyper-aggressive females?

Our society is reeling from stories of sexually-assertive school teachers who prey on their male students. We find it incomprehensible that teenage girls would form into gangs and lurk in the alleyways. And research now shows that female-initiated partner violence is more common than the male variety. [www.unh.edu/news/cj_nr/2006/may/em_060519male.cfm ?type=n]

Think of Xena the Warrior Princess with premenstrual syndrome.

Which brings me to another one of my favorite T-shirts: “Girls Lie.”

Our society has become inundated with so many feminist prevarications that it has difficulty separating truth from falsehood.

Here goes: the oppressiveness of marriage, the stifling effects of childrearing, the gender wage gap, the epidemic of domestic violence against women, the exclusion of women from medical research, the shortchanging of schoolgirls, the catch-all insensitivity to women’s needs, and much, much more.

Which makes you wonder, How did the Nervous Nellies ever get through college without a Take Back the Night rally to steady themselves?

This is my personal favorite: “Women have always been the primary victims of war. Women lose their husbands, their fathers, their sons in combat.” That insight comes to us by way of HRC.

Now visit any of the radical feminist websites – they seethe with anti-male diatribes and epithets. I’ve seen outright bigotry in my life, but nothing that quite compares with the rants of Andrea Dworkin, Catherine McKinnon, or Kate Millett.

Then there’s the fairness gene – or lack thereof.

Feminists squawk and fuss about “gender equality,” but once men become an endangered species on college campuses, all of a sudden the message shifts to “female empowerment.” When men die five years sooner than women, why does the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services fund Centers for Excellence for the ladies, but not the lads?

And if the women’s libbers want true equality, why aren’t they burning their bras so they can win the “right” to trek over to the post office on their 18th birthday to register for government service?

And now for the dirty little secret – feminists are the most intolerant people on the earth!

Last week the flap was over the Screen Goddess calendar that was adorned with 16 IT vixens. [www.itgoddess.info] Naturally the Champions of Choice became apoplectic. “Girls are often excluded from the possibility of the profession by its cultural maleness,” one woman shrieked.

And remember Larry Summers? He said there was a slight possibility that discrimination was not the reason for the small numbers of female physicists and rocket scientists. Even though he became a serial apologizer, the red-fems tarred and feathered the poor man and sent him packing from his Harvard U. presidency!

There’s a lesson to be learned here: You can never appease a feminist.

Napoleon Bonaparte once observed, “Female virtue has been held in suspicion from the beginning of the world, and ever will be.” That’s why as feminism gains, virtue wanes.

[derllak]

Will you provide the meat, Master? Lol! :P

[Leatherneck_MT]

ROTFL

oh of course!

[Soaring Feather]

Okay, deal Lady.

[derllak]

I'm on my way.....and please....hit me hard, I deserve it!
Come to think of it, so do you! :P

[Gabz]

I guess it just works some and for others doesn't.

I'm one it just doesn't work for........1976 was the first time someone tried to teach me how to do it, 30 years later and 4 others trying, I know the basics, just can't handle the mechanics of it!!!!!

[pageonetoo]

I can't keep her home enough, though. She needs to have a purpose. Right now, her "purpose" is to sell used cars for a Toyota dealership in Chantilly, VA. She hates to depend on me, though she needs do nothing.

She doesn't like selling new cars as much, because she enjoys the variety on her lot. She will sit in the cars reading manuals, to pass the time.

She drives an hour one-way, from our home in WV. I drive all over the country. I just can't stand the idea of HAVING to drive an hour each way, each day.

We have 3 '87 300ZX's. A t-top coupe, and straight coupe, and a 2+2 (her daily driver with almost 400k). We drive a lot. Don't get me started on gas prices. She keeps our cars going. We have 9 in the drive right now. All titled, insured, and ready to drive. She likes rice rockets, I like German steel. I drive a 5.0 litre '90 Towncar most days, to take my dog running. I have a couple of big Benzes and a volvo turbo wagon.

She also has three cats! She won't let me kill them!

[newguy357]

what is a feminist? I real definition please

I think G.K. Chesterton defined a feminist as someone who hates femininity.

[rochester_veteran]

Whenever a man does something for me like hold a door, pull out a chair, help me with a coat, etc., I ALWAYS give him a big smile and say Thanks! I want to ENCOURAGE that behavior! He's not saying I'm some helpless idiot, he's simply showing respect!

I was raised by my Dad to open doors for ladies, walk on the street side of the sidewalk while walking with a lady, give my seat up on the bus to a lady, etc... I've raised my sons the same way. I'm not the only one who does this as I see gentlemanly behavior all the time; the large, tough-looking black guy giving up his seat on the bus to an elderly white lady; a hispanic guy helping a handicapped person negotiate a tight space; the "punk" looking white kid helping an over-burdened Mom with her packages so she could tend to her little ones. I've seen all of this within the past month while taking the bus back and forth to work. I see oafishness and rudeness as well, but that doesn't mean we have to act that way. Thanks for smiling and thanking us for being gentlemen! It all makes for a more pleasant world.

[MotleyGirl70]

There are good women and bad women - good men and bad men.

Exactly! I gotta find me one of those good men :)

[newguy357]

Know what I sense about men? They feel inferior around todays woman because we aren't giggly, stupid and slaves ...as in the old days. We are equals...and don't have to Obey anymore. So you seek that in other cultures now.

Equals? Guess what: most men aren't interested in marrying men. That might explain why you are lonely, miserable, and hate life.

[irish guard]

Me too

[Common Tator]

The shirt depicted a girl cold-cocking a boy. Above the how-to diagram were etched these words: “How to Drop a Boyfriend.”

I think this shirt is funny!

The shirt depicted a boy cold-cocking a girl. Above the how-to diagram were etched these words: “How to Drop a Girlfriend.”

Would it still be funny?

[DustyMoment]

Oh, ok, never mind then.

Speaking of the feminist mindset, I got into an argument with my mom many years ago over the fact that women had bought so deeply into the whole feminism/women's lib stuff was the reason I wasn't married because they didn't know what they wanted. I was a nice guy (well, still am) with a good job and not too ugly and I couldn't have a serious relationship to save my soul. She got so mad at me, you'd have thought that I told her her children were ugly!! LOL!!!

I don't know to this day what her underlying issue was, but that was the wrong thing to say. She and my dad had come up to Dallas to visit and she barely spoke to me the rest of their stay.

[Gabz]

Equals? Guess what: most men aren't interested in marrying men. That might explain why you are lonely, miserable, and hate life.

What a totally out of line and nasty comment to make.

There was nothing wrong with Fawn's comment, it is very frequently true. My husband does consider me his equal.....there are things he does that I can't, just as there are things I do that he can't.

Being equals does not equate to being the same. Men and women are diffrent, and REAL men and women understand and accept that simple concept.

[Fawn]

Of course not.

[newguy357]

I learned how to work on cars, do carpentry and all sorts of neat stuff I wouldn't have, given too much pink. But there are a lot of men who don't like that in a woman. Maybe they are the insecure ones, but they portray it with rage and that's what pisses me off.

No, men are fine with that in women. What men aren't fine with is women who are arrogant, as you really seem to be.

[MotleyGirl70]

Thanks for smiling and thanking us for being gentlemen! It all makes for a more pleasant world.

I thank you for being a gentleman towards ladies. It's nice to know that chivalry still exsists.

I'm always thankful when I'm entering a building and a man holds the door for me. I don't take those little niceties for granted.

[Gabz]

What is your problem with women? You seem to enjoy being nasty to female FReepers. My ex-husband hated the fact the had to take his car to a service station to have the oil changed, but I could change the oil in my own. Yet he refused to allow me to change his. He could not wrap his mind around the fact a woman was capable of soing something he couldn't......but instead of learning how to do it, he berated me for it.

Insecure is the perfect word to describe that type of man.

[Little Bill]

I am 1845 on the genealogy that kicks back a generation to my Great-great Grandfather, he was the middle child of ten . They all vote Republican, except for a few commie ingrates.

[Fawn]

That might explain why you are lonely, miserable, and hate life.

Actually that sounds like you.....I've never been happier! I see sunshine 99 days out of 100!!!