Like most problems, the observer sometimes sees so much more than the participants, and this may be the most problematic undercurrent that I've observed, a great deal of special attention from dad.. For some reason, an unspoken rivalry develops between mom and daughter that is palpable, and painfully real. It's a conflict that develops almost from birth, a kind of, can I say jealousy, one that is usually celebrated, and exacerbated by the receiving dad.. It starts as a cute, "daddy's girl" thing, just a joke that festers into something more somewhere along the way..
It may have some components that women understand more than a guy does, but I have witnessed it more than I like, and have been disappointed by the outcome in my own life.. I have never seen anything like it between mom and son, or son and dad, or even son and sister.. That said I don't think you can say it has anything to do with being tied down because of the new offspring, or that two women can share a man, because it appears to be only one daughter, not girls in general.. I offer no solutions only observations I may have had a unique experience, so take it with a grain of salt.. Wow, I have always wanted to get that off my chest.. I feel better, I hope it can help.. :)
Thanks! As I said, there are so many other issues that I don't want to go into on an open forum. I really was worried about having a daughter, since I thought not getting along was normal. Except for times when she talks too much or when she doesn't pay attention (which can be said for my boys, too) we get along swimmingly. She's my little shadow. In fact, we have play arguments about who's prettier at least once a month: "You're prettier." "No. You are." "Trust me. You're prettier." "You're prettier." , etc., etc.