Frankly, if I was going to kid's parties expecting to be entertained or if I was reading kid's literature expecting to find some superficial enjoyment out of it, I would be bored out of my mind, too.
Don't get me wrong, I wholeheartedly agree with the condemnation of this selfish person.
Her goal is focused on herself. A mother sees beyond the activity and looks toward the goal of the activity, raising healthy, wholesome, happy adults who were provided with the myriad of experiences and opportunities along the way for growth and enrichment.
Not only is this woman to be condemned, she is to be pitied.
But it was all worth every second, because now I love to be with my grandkids, and I love letting them bake cookies with me, reading stories, going to the ice cream parlor, making a "restaurant" in the kitchen.
I don't aim to defend this person in the least, but I'll tell you that there is a moment in which, for me, I perceived a choice.
My little two month old daughter was in our bathroom, looking at herself in the mirror, and she reached out her hand. Until that time, I had gone through 7 years of infertility regimen, and felt I had accomplished something in just seeing it through to my wife's dream - kids.
Kids weren't my dream in the least.
My daughter reached out her hand to the mirror, and it was like something hit me like a shovel in the back of the head, and I remember hearing in my head, distinctly, a voice saying:
"You have no idea what this experience through this child has to offer you. Pass this up means you know better than I what happiness is, or might be."
At that moment I got on my hands and knees with her on the floor and helped her stand so she could reach out and touch the mirror standing.
All of this to say that closing yourself off to your children takes effort, not a lack thereof.
Children are worth it, but the value proposition of children has essentially been washed down the drain by, in my opinion, popular media and lack of a faith life.
Yes. And much worse. I had a good career when my child was born. I loved my job, but even the best one has loads of boredom built into it. Paperwork, budgets, dealing with associates who are more obtuse than said children... Ten and 12 year olds may be a pain, but they're certainly not boring. If they have the proper direction, that is. Children have a refreshing view on life and helping steer them is more important and more rewarding than anything I remember from my career. The worse part for me though is now my child is grown and I gave up my career. I really AM in a boring job which is the reason I have time to freep.
Unfortunately there a lot of parents that don't like children. Why they have them is beyond me.
We homeschooled our (now adult) daughter. I can honestly say, that except (maybee) for the time of the day when I have my before dinner beer, I prefer the company of children over that of adults.
We were in activities such as Girl Scouts (wife was a troop leader) and YMCA Indian Princesses. Spending the weekend camping with a bunch of kids. What compares with that?
I genuinely feel sorry for those that have children and don't spend as much time as possible with them. They miss so much. And there is so much to learn.
If I was younger (they do require stamina) and we could afford for my wife to not work, I'd love to have a couple of little ones around again. She went back to work when the kid left home & we're playing catch up saving for retirement.
Am I a lazy, superficial person because I don't enjoy packing up their sports kit, or making their lunch
* Yes lady you are lazy.
What goes around comes around. Wait until she is ready for a nursing home and see how the kids respond to her. By the way, at least this woman recognizes that she is a mutant with regards to her feelings about kids. She is also kinda hot.
Yep, and a worthless mother to boot. Unfortunate that such a narcissistic slob was blessed with children, when so many others are not.
FREERIDER Ping!
I bet she's the type of is a hellion if she doesn't get a Mother's Day card but misses all the events in her kids life.
Because you're selfish and only care about you maybe???
"Kids are supposed to be fulfilling, life-changing, life-enhancing fun..."
Where on earth did she get that idea? Parenting requires work, sacrifice, dedication, patients, and unselfishness. I wonder how her mom felt about raising her.
I simply can't imagine a parent not taking an interest in most of their kids' activities and interests. How can this kind of parent expect their kids to listen to them or take any interest in their ideas or values? This mom will one day certainly end up in a lonely old folks' home.
Her sons definitely should not marry a girl like dear old mom...if they marry a girl at all. When she's a shriveled old crone in a government home, they may treat her with the same self-centered neglect that she taught them when they were young.
How sad for these boys. It reminds me of a poem I've had on my bedroom mirror for years:
My hands were busy through the day.
I didn’t have much time to play.
The little games you asked to do,
I didn’t have much time for you.
I’d wash your clothes. I’d sew and cook.
You’d ask and I’d read from your book.
I’d tuck you in all safe at night,
And hear your prayers; turn out the light.
Then tiptoe softly by your door,
I wish I’d stayed a minute more.
For life was short, the years rushed past,
A little boy grows up so fast.
No longer is he at my side,
His precious secrets to confide.
The picture books are put away.
There are no longer games to play.
No Teddy Bears or misplaced toys
No sleepovers with lots of boys.
No goodnight kiss, no prayers to hear.
That all belongs to yesteryear.
My hands, once busy, now are still.
The days are long and hard to fill.
I wish I could go back and do
The little things you asked me to do.
Sending their one and only son off to boarding school or hiring a nanny was a luxury my poor white-trash parents (bless their hearts) couldn't afford.
Ha, it is this self-absorbed witch who is consummately boring.
Nothing less than another sad step downward for the already ailing Western civilization. It is an attack on society's foundation when the sacred bonds of the nuclear family are assaulted by the plague of narcissism.
I used to be a fan of all things UK, but I really don't like the increasingly secular British much any more at all. Additionally, this kind of disgusting attitude means their asses will be easy to kick in the future. Sad. I'd rather hang out with the Poles.
OK, lazy and superficial is a start ... followed by self-centered jerk... Yeah, I feel compassion - for her poor children and what must be a very sad children's father. This woman is a load. Counseling might help...