[HOTTIEBOY]

"""So, show me the harm of that one, single factor."""

There is no harm in it. None. The fact that my girlfriend and I live together has absolutely no significance whatsoever on madprof98's everyday life. We share the bills. And we will eventually get married if we see that we can live together. I won't make the same mistake twice.

But it is nobody else's dang business. If people like madprof98 don't like my living arrangement, then people like madprof98 don't have to come to my house, They can just turn their nose up into the air and ride on by.

[petitfour]

You remind me of my cousin and her ex-husband. We have a stodgy Old Maid aunt who used to go on and on about couples living together. I don't think she was ever aware that my cousin lived with her (now ex-)husband for several years before they married. I think she thought I would be the one to do such. Anywho, I guess those years of deciding whether they were compatible for life did not pan out because he found a younger version after 15 or so years of marriage. I think he might want children or some such at this point in life rather than the freedom he cherished at 20. So, my cousin is childless and husbandless at 39. And brokenhearted. But at least they had a try-out to make sure they would be compatible.

Life has no guarantees any old way you slice it. People change. Sometimes for the better. Sometimes not.