Is this one of those deals where someone says something arguable and we aren't allowed to respond to him because he is a victim?
yup
Got it in one, you did.
And remember, don't argue with him, because to do so would DENY HIS PAIN, and you don't want to be labeled a HATER, do you?
"Is this one of those deals where someone says something arguable and we aren't allowed to respond to him because he is a victim?"
Absolutely not, but "get over it" doesn't make it as an appropriate response.