Posted on 06/29/2006 8:59:40 AM PDT by charming_harmonica
You have a point.
Also, judging a person for an accidental act or omission is repulsive to me.
As a matter of fact, judging other people at all is a dangerous practice and is against the teaching of Christ.
I hate that this happens and feel remorse for all involved. I have two daughters. I can barely imagine how this parent must feel. My heart would rip in two if this ever happened in my family.
After 5 months of sleep deprivation people do odd things. I'm not passing judgement.
The tragedy sometimes works in reverse----news stories told of a dad who rarely had the job of dropping baby off at daycare. But one day the task fell to him.
He went about his normal routine and completely forgot the baby was in the back seat. Co-workers spotted the child, several hours after he had arrived at work, and ran in to alert him----but it was too late. The baby had died.
The guilt these parents live with must be horrendous, beating themselves up with "if only."
Eery flashback to exact same scenario a year ago in Lubbock PING.
Me, too.
Sometimes we find ourselves in places we wouldn't have chosen and our only choice is to do the best we can.
I've been judged and knew the people who were judging me were misinformed.
After some time, I've had one person apologize to me and many others warm back up to me because now they know more information.
Shouldn't they have trusted in me all along?
Yes.
Did I forgive them?
Yes.
Will I forget who was loyal and trusting in my time of difficulty and who abandoned me?
No.
Or have the briefcase/purse/bookbag always next to the car seat.
This SAME EXACT thing happened a year ago here where I live. The Grand Jury only recently chose not to return an indictment. I heard a medical expert say that the baby was probably asleep and mercifully probably never awoke. One can only pray the baby didn't suffer.
Actually I got in the habit of looking over my shoulder and double-checking my surroundings because I don't want that serial killer or other criminal popping up behind me in the car...or anywhere ;^)
I just became more cautious after I had kids because it wasn't just me I was responsible for anymore.
I think some of the other posters are right in that people spread themselves too thin, and also don't look at childrearing as a full time job.
I think both children and parents are better off if one parent stays home with the kids.
That's why you don't rely on your memory, and you always keep your eyes peeled and look around you. Check your car when you get in and out.
If you can't afford to give your time to your kids, you can't afford kids.
I can't understand how you could forget something this important.
"lady was considered a very good mother and she was not a moron. Before she dropped the child off she had to run an errand that wasn't part of her normal routine"
A good mother's first priority is raising and caring for her child. She doesn't farm it off for others to deal with when it's an infant.
One of my friends has two children: ages 3 and 1-1/2. The three year old's first year (much of which was spent in daycare), he had lots of ear infections, etc. When the youngest was born, she stayed home for good. The youngest has never had an ear infection yet.
I do not consider forgetting who is responsible for a baby's care to be accidental. I was a nurse involved with children for almost 40 years. My anxiety dreams were of forgetting to give a medication, or of feeding a baby. Obviously this kind of "forgetting" weighs very heavily on my mind.
In the 21st century it seems that too many people are putting their children second to their own needs. All I am asking for is more publicity to the potential hazard that distracted parents are to their own children.
how very sad. Those of us who have raised our children to adulthood can look back on our own lives and see MANY times when our kids had near death experiences. I know I can and I was a stay at home mom! Life is imperfect. It is a mercy that any of us lived past the age of 10.
>>That's why you don't rely on your memory, and you always keep your eyes peeled and look around you. Check your car when you get in and out.<<
Yep.
However, not being a computer nor a machine, sometimes accidents happen - and sometimes with deadly results.
I understand you completely. I discussed this type of tragedy with my wife. We have two children and the right thing to do would be to be as strong as possible and go on living, but in a situation like that, I don't know that I would be able to.
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