Hate the sin, but not the sinner is not in the Bible as far as I can determine.
I also disagree with your "if they truely loved Jesus ---~~They would not Judge people.
I understand where you are coming from sorta, but all Christians are called to judge period. Judge righteously" (Deut. 1:16-17; Lev. 19:15 (Jesus said, "Do not judge according to appearance, but judge with righteous judgment" (John 7:24). )... "he who is spiritual judges all things. For... we have the mind of Christ" (1 Cor. 2:15-16). "Those who rebuke the wicked will have delight, and a good blessing will come upon them." (Prov. 24:25).
"Every tongue which rises against you in judgment you shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord " (Isa. 54:17).
To abhor evil, someone must first judge evil. God instructs men against "hypocrisy" commanding them to "abhor what is evil" (Rom. 12:9). Thus, unable to judge, and unaccustomed to abhorrence, Christians en masse become hypocrites when they obey the Hypocrites Golden Rule. For "judge not" (Mat. 7:1-5) is simply a hypocrites application of do unto others as you would have them do unto you (Mat. 7:12). "For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged" (Mat. 7:2). Judge others as you would have them do unto you inverted is Judge not if you do not want to be judged. Therefore the hypocrite does not judge. As Jesus said, "Judge not you hypocrite" (Mat. 7:1, 5 KJV; Ezek. 16:52). Christ kept this theme throughout His ministry. "Hypocrites," Jesus said, "why, even of yourselves, do you not judge what is right?" (Luke 12:56-57). Still, His own followers have mostly ignored the Lords harsh rebuke: "Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck out of your brothers eye" (Mat. 7:5). "Judge Not" is the Hypocritical Oath.
Unfortunately, the Phelps have hypocrisy cornered. Their motives on money put them firmly in that corner. But judging is definitely a Christian job. Phelps are not Christian IMHO, just money chasing charlatans.
Beg your pardon, I've met many who judge very much.
Good post.
1) Love your neighbor as your self. (but who is my neighbor?)
2) Don't bother judging whether someone is going to hell. It isn't your business. In everything else, judge away!
IMO.