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I wonder what might be done to make those chances ZERO.

Under the system we have now? Nothing.

There is a conviction in Social Services mother and child must remain together. It doesn't matter that one of them likes to torture the others. They will hand the kid back to her while cooing, "Who loves his mommy?"

You can literally kill a child and regain custody of their surviving siblings when you finish serving your 18 months if indeed you go to jail at all.

Statistically the person most likely to harm a child is mommy's boyfriend. The second most likely is mommy.

Why we are not as strict on female abusers as male is something I don't understand.

There would be a lot less hurt and dead kids in the country.

Statistically the person most likely to harm a child is mommy's boyfriend. The second most likely is mommy.

AMEN.

Why we are not as strict on female abusers as male is something I don't understand.

Because foster care is a big flaming mess. The massive influx of children into foster care, if female abuser were truly treated as the abusers they are, would overwhelm the current system. To preserve the "system" they let children die, stay if foster care instead of being adopted, and stay with abusive adults rather then move them.

Personal rant - stop reading if you want to.

The foster care system is run by people who believe in theory over experience. This is why children are reunited with abusive relatives, because the theory of family unity is much more important than the experience that abusing children is a learned behavior that is difficult to unlearn.

The prevailing theory is that only people of a child's ethnic group should adopt that child. It is better to keep a baby or toddler in foster care with the "chance" of adoption later by someone of the same ethnic group than to allow the baby or toddler to be adopted by people outside the ethnic group. The experience is that while in foster care, the child will have a less than 5% chance of being placed with foster parents of his or her ethnic group. The experience is that after children get out of toddlerhood they have a less than 10% chance of being adopted, often less than 1%.

The theory is that it is better for the child to be with relatives than in foster care, and female relatives more than male relatives. This is why children will be placed back with their mothers or grandmothers when the {grand}mothers have completed a course on anger management or parenting. Experience is that children are most likely to be killed and abused by {1} mom's boyfriend, {2}then mom, {3}then grandma, {4}then dad, {5} then outside male (not mom's boyfriend), {6}then uncles, {7} then grandpa, {8} then aunts, {9} then an outside female.