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I'm sorry, but you chose a bad man if he is "beating the crap" out of you.

God sees your union, if you are a Christian, as one that exists until death of a spouse. That is not to say the Church shouldn't intervene or that you couldn't stay away with friends or family while your spouse was being counseled.

This is why growing to discern better and picking a DECENT GUY matters. It is why being with someone who is willing to be held accountable by others is so important.

However, people can be selfish and stupid and make decisions based on their privates doing the talking or their selfishness, greed, or neediness controlling them. You should have friends and family around you that you respect to stop you from EVER GETTING INVOLVED WITH A JERK IN THE FIRST PLACE! Because marriage is FOR LIFE! Did you say "until divorce do us part" or "until you beat the crud out of me do us part"? And such a vow is something that you chose to add to accentuate your commitment. Or was it simply because you thought your word was never meant to be taken "literally"?

Take responsibility for your words and actions before God. I have to do likewise. Life was never meant to be fair, but the only chance we have is to be with God.

Love and respect Him and yourself and the worst things are, in the end, able to be handled.

We disagree. I was extremely picking choosing the man I married. But many women are not. God shouldn't punish them and deny them love just because they made a mistake in thinking they had married a good man. The woman in this case is completely innocent.

Way to blame the victim. It's not the beaten's fault, the person at fault in abuse is ALWAYS the abuser. It's not because the abused didn't "discern better" it's because the abuser is a no good piece of shit who should be killed.

Abusers are very sneaky. They don't beat somebody up on their first date. In fact many abusers are really incredibly nice people, when they're not swinging their fists. My wife had an abusive boyfriend, nobody believed her, he was a nice guy, her parents loved him, because they never saw him drag her across the room by her hair, they only saw him get a great job andbuy the whole family dinner. Abuser excel and not doing anything bad until the other person falls in love, the other thing they're great at is making the abused feel it's their fault. Abusers are also brainwashers.

And blaming the victim makes you almost as much of a POS as an abuser. Learn before you type, because frankly what you typed is disgusting, reprehensible, and vile.