I am glad to try to do it.
Don't be sorry about the location. It is a lovely quiet place, not at all sad and gloomy. You feel that they are all happy to be back with their "buddies". I try to think of my husband as having a reunion with his friends and a very happy time of his life.
We lived in Western New York and had retired to Florida, but this was his choice. I understand why he wanted this, now.
Imagine how long your relative had been with his crew. Why separate them now? Well, that is one way to look at it. Had you considered that?
Yes, I am sure the young men he died with were "his family" at the time, and since they spent the last 60+ years together, it is fitting they be buried right next together.
My biggest concern was that being so far away, who would visit his grave, who would remember him? Your kind offer to visit his grave has certainly been a "signal" grace, that God is providential, and that Elgin is buried right where he should be. Thanks again. It really means a lot to me and my family.