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don't think my friends necessarily put their careers first. I used to practice law; I know that type of woman and these women are very different. Sometimes it just happens that you don't get asked. It's that simple. No one asks you to the prom, no one buys you a drink at the bar, no one looks across rows of cubicles and says 'you're the one.'

Maybe it's that simple. My sister-in-law told me of a lady she knew at work who just got married at Age 49 -- first time -- to a guy who's fifty-something -- first time for both. Apparently there are many stories about his difficulty getting the nerve together to ask for that first date! And they seem quite happy together. So there are exceptions to the rule.

I think part of what happens is that, as we mature, we not only lose our physical appeal but we also get more particular about mates -- more set in our ways. Twenty years ago, I'd date a girl who was a smoker. Not now. Twenty years ago, I'd take a chance on a woman who was uncomfortable in sports cars, unwilling to fly in small planes... I'd figure I could win her over. Not now. I am a crusty old curmudgeon, and appeal to nobody.

But I'm cool with that.

d.o.l.

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I am a crusty old curmudgeon, and appeal to nobody.

I hear you. I'd love to be in a relationship again, but I've been a widow for 15 years (I was widowed in my 30s) and kinda set in my ways. I don't know who could stand a right wing, colored gal, rock and roll nut.

On the other hand, if you like rock (I'm downloading music from iTunes as we speak) and home cooking, maybe we could be housemates? : )

I think part of what happens is that, as we mature, we not only lose our physical appeal but we also get more particular about mates -- more set in our ways. Twenty years ago, I'd date a girl who was a smoker. Not now. Twenty years ago, I'd take a chance on a woman who was uncomfortable in sports cars, unwilling to fly in small planes... I'd figure I could win her over. Not now. I am a crusty old curmudgeon, and appeal to nobody.

When you're in your twenties, you are willing to put up with a lot if it will get you laid. As the hormones cool off, it becomes less of an issue