[papertyger]

But don't you think that a single mother by choice brings a child into this world knowingly, and lovingly?

Sure...in the same way a long term adultress "loves" her paramour. It is a very complex, convoluted mimicry of the virtuous version of a similar dynamic.

What is worse, not knowing your father, or knowing you have a father who doesn't give a sh!t? My father only wanted me to avoid child support. He didn't give a crap about me whatsoever. And that hurt a lot. I would have rather not known anything about my father.

When did this become a discussion about you and your ghosts?

But to answer your question, it's not about avoiding what's worst for the child, it's about doing what's best for the child.

[rintense]

So you think having a father, any man who fell on a woman and created a child- AND is completely worthless as a father, a father who is absent as a father, let alone human being, is better than having no father at all?

Try as you may, this is not about my demons. Spin it all you want. I'm glad my mother made the choice she did because it *was* in the best interest of her children. And I will always love her dearly for the sacrifices she made to raise us- God rest her soul.