But don't you think that a single mother by choice brings a child into this world knowingly, and lovingly? What is worse, not knowing your father, or knowing you have a father who doesn't give a sh!t? My father only wanted me to avoid child support. He didn't give a crap about me whatsoever. And that hurt a lot. I would have rather not known anything about my father.
Sure...in the same way a long term adultress "loves" her paramour. It is a very complex, convoluted mimicry of the virtuous version of a similar dynamic.
What is worse, not knowing your father, or knowing you have a father who doesn't give a sh!t? My father only wanted me to avoid child support. He didn't give a crap about me whatsoever. And that hurt a lot. I would have rather not known anything about my father.
When did this become a discussion about you and your ghosts?
But to answer your question, it's not about avoiding what's worst for the child, it's about doing what's best for the child.