[JamesP81]

I would nominate this young woman as mother of the year in a heartbeat.

So would I.

I would nominate him as father of the year for BOTH of those girls.

So would I. But they are young enough to attach to him as their father and see him that way.

We do not live in a cookie cutter world

Clearly.

and there are no absolutes.

And if that's true, then what's right is whatever you decide is right. Nothing good will come from situational ethics. It's been tried; it doesn't work. Once you go down this path, you take the authority out of what's truly right and what's truly wrong. The only possible end result is social and moral anarchy.

[Gabz]

So would I. But they are young enough to attach to him as their father and see him that way.

The gentleman IS the father of the toddler, not of the 8 year old. My point is he considers them BOTH as his own children.

And if that's true, then what's right is whatever you decide is right. Nothing good will come from situational ethics.

Don't put words in my mouth. My comments were directed at one specific issue, where a poster said a child conceived of rape should be put up for adoption, because choosing single motherhood, even in that case was wrong. I gave an example (my friend and her family) that proved that absolutist attitude to be wrong.

She was raped at 15, gave birth 2 weeks after turning 16 and kept her child as a single mother with the support of her family. 4 years later she married and now has another child and they have a wonderful family. Show me where ethics or morals have been compromised in the least in this situation.