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Nope, you agree with me 100%! :-) That's why I used the full quote. I don't defend any "lifestyle" or foolish, sinful or selfish choices people make. I do believe we are called to holiness.

However, I am offended when people with holier-than-thou attitudes assign hateful names to others or when people readily point out the sin of the woman while ignoring the sin of the man. Neither is fair or Christian. A woman whose sexual sins end in pregnancy is an easy target -- but what if all our sins were as obvious? What if we had to wear our sins on a plaque around our necks... what would they read? Glutton ... Liar ... Drunk ... Greedy? I know my own sin well enough to know that I shouldn't be casting stones.

Thank-you.
Interesting talk going on here. It seems that many of you missed the point of the article or the program. No one is whining here. Yes, my son's father should have the same responsibilities as I, but he chose not. The point of the Single 2 Mother is to bring single mothers together to empower one another to succeed in positive parenting, personal success, and life balance. We explicitly state that this is not a counseling group or man bashing group-- we are not victims. We network and share resources. We focus on where we are going, not where we have been. Our children are front and center and raising successful children is what drives us. How can you possibly argue with that? It seems that some of you think that if we are mothers without a partner then we should live in sin forever????

I am an educated woman-- if you missed it, I am working on my MPA at a Jesuit school. My son is very happy and very well taken car of!! I did not conceive this child prior to my 30s. People making negative assumptions is exactly why many of us feel stigmatized.

We take care of our responsibilities do all? of course not, do all married couples? nope.

My story is just ONE story. There are millions of children in this country being raised in single parent families. Do you know each of their stories? NO, so why would you make such horrible assumptions? Many, if not most, of the women in our group WERE married-- and I have not asked, but may have been virgins at the time they got married. I don't know why they are single nor do I care as that simply is not the reason for the Single 2 Mother.

I think many of you should consider that you too could become single parents, or your children could become single parents. You just do not know-- you think you are secure in your glass house? With marriages falling apart at record rates (and, yes, your partners could leave you), your husbands and sons being killed in a war, and everyday accidents happening everywhere? Don't judge, you may have to walk in my shoes someday & wouldn't it be better if you knew you had a safetynet program to catch you before you fall to the ground?
Best to you all,
Randi Anderson, Single 2 Mother