I didn't say they were going to hell or heaven. I just asked you if it will matter.
I don't know if it would matter. Like I said, I do not believe in a God, so I have no dog in the "heaven or hell" race. However, your choice of words describing the family relationship (the negative "looking the other way," as opposed to something more positive, like "loving their daughter, warts and all") - when "standing before God" - suggests you already have their final resting place picked out, unless they abruptly cut ties with her.