I'm a parent, and I think not.
There is a middle ground between forgiveness and hatred. That is the pursuit of justice.
You have to get on with your life, yes. You may give up the desire for revenge. But that does not mean that you offer your forgiveness to the murderer. Especially if he has not asked for it. If he does, well, Christ commanded us to forgive, so you'd have to make the effort, I guess.
But suppose the murderer intends to kill other men's sons? Only a complete moral leper would consider forgiving him. And a moral leper is what Mr. Berg is.
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I'm with ya.
One can forgive but still hold someone accountable.
You said that much bettter than I managed.