I got some news for you. If you didn't do a halachic orthodox conversion--THEN YOU AIN'T JEWISH.
you wife can pretend to be Jewish--BUT SHE AIN'T. AND NEITHER ARE YOUR CHILDREN
being a Jew is not what is convenient for you to be accepted. It's about being a JEW and living like one.
Reform rabbi's would convert a dog to judiasm if someone asked them.
They have no standards of anything, and are 100% wrong in their entire approach to Judiasm, and life in general.
no offense to you or your wife personally--Just pointing out facts.
you wife can pretend to be Jewish--BUT SHE AIN'T. AND NEITHER ARE YOUR CHILDREN
I got news for you, but my wife did go through a halachic orthodox conversion. A conservative rabbi taught the conversion class, but the conversion itself was at an Orthodox synagogue with an orthodox Beit Din approving her conversion.
As for the rest, my parents chose where I grew up, so I can't help that. But believe me, after being of the few Jews on town -- the kid who was often thought of as THE JEW -- my Judaism means a lot to me. How I choose to express it, based on how I was raised, what I've experienced, what I've thought, and what I've prayed is a matter between me and God, for Him to condemn or approve. I answer to God. Not you.