[GrandEagle]

We have a rule in my house. No books, DVD's, tapes, or CD's come into my home unless I have OK'd them. Doesn't matter where they come from. If I find one it is thrown out right then and the offending party is disciplined. I once read/watched/listened to them all, but alas there are now too many of them submitting requests, but I do look at them all, and I still listen to ALL music.
My 6 year old lost a school book like that last year because I found it and it didn't have Dad's seal on it. That one I had to replace - my own rule bit me on that one.
Anyway, my childrens teachers all know not to spring something new on them.
My daughters best friend is forbidden to bring music to my house (she lost a CD also once). She listens to garbage.

Seems to work for us ... so far

Cordially,
GE

[tom h]

Good luck on your style but when your oldest gets to be around 11 or 12, you might want to consider letting up a little bit. By then, you will need to trust them to make the right decisions. For a counter perspective, read the book by John Rosemond called "Teenproofing your home." Rosemond is a Christian and a child psychologist but don't let the latter descriptor fool you as he believes in raising children the way grandma raised them in decades past. I have a very strong-willed eldest child and if I hammered on every one of her decisions I would create a very rebellious teenager. She's been raised correctly (like yours) and I now have to give her a little freedom. She will NOT get "Gossip Girls" but she is allowed music and other items that my wife and I do not prefer but is still not unGodly.