Ask her how many blacks Bill "The First Black President" Clinton put on the Supreme Court or put in important cabinet positions like National Security Advisor or Secretary of State. Ask her what Democrat politicians have done to help blacks in all of the urban areas that they control. Ask her why, after Democrats took control of the cities and put all of those welfare and affirmative action programs into place, the number of black children born to a single mother has skyrocketed from around 30% to around 70%. The Klan couldn't have come up with a better program to destroy the black family and condemn black males to lives of crime and poverty if they tried. Black slaves used to risk beatings and worse to learn how to read and to escape and live free. They used to bear secret family names to create family bonds that slave owners tried to break because they wanted a sense of family. Johnson's Great Society manged to destroy the black family, make all too many blacks happy to live as wards of the state unable to help themselves, and liberals have convinced blacks that reading is beneath them. Ask her to explain how all of that helped blacks. I'd really like to know.
You also might want to tell her that I've talked to several Carribean blacks who are embarassed to be identified as blacks or with American blacks. One insisted on calling himself Jamaican, not black. The other, who had a poor mother and lived in the Bronx, talked about Jamaican kids doing better in school than the American blacks because they didn't want to be thought of as being as stupid as the American blacks. And that's not even going into the increasing unease that I'm hearing from other white people about living anywhere near blacks because between the LA Riots, the OJ Simpson reaction, and other similar incidents, white people just don't trust blacks. She needs to wake up and realize that things are going backward and not forward toward Martin Luther King Jr.'s dream of a society where people are judged by the content of their character and not the color of their skin. And it's the Democrats driving that by dividing people by race and making poor blacks dependent on their handouts for political advantage that's driving a lot of it.
Finally, some reading suggestions. First, anything by Thomas Sowell is good but, in particular, Race and Culture, The Vision of the Annointed, and The Quest For Cosmic Justice. The Vision of the Annointed is a harsh indictment of liberal policies and why they don't work. Second, I highly recommend Keith Richburg's Out of America. Basically, it discussed Richburg's experiences in Africa as a black American.
She gets mad when I talk to her 16 year old daughter about politics. Her daughter sees what I'm talking about, she's interested in the things I have to tell her and the questions I ask. She took a test in H.S. which told her by her answers and beliefs that she's a republican.
My fiancee isn't really interested very much in politics, just in spouting the party line.