Yes, you CAN have a personal life -- and BTW -- keep it private because I do not care who you care to sleep with.
Why is it that people continue to identify themselves by the sexual aspects of their lives?
People don't. People afflicted with same-sex attraction disorder do
The second law of homosexuality:
To the mentally healthy (heterosexual), sex is something you do.
To the mentally diseased ("homosexual"), sex is everything you are