You're right, but for the wrong reasons. Those things can drive off a good woman if they are done too quickly or incongruently. None of the traits you list necessarily denote a 'real man.'
The guys who get rejected after this routine aren't being rejected because they are perceived as 'real men,' though that may be a comforting thought. They come across as weak or needy men. A real woman doesn't want a needy man. They are being rejected on legitimate grounds for character defects, not character strengths.
It's ok to do all those things congruently with a mature relationship. If those traits are done out of weakness, for the need for her approval or favor, or general neediness, women spot that and ditch the guy. If they are done from a position of strength, affection, and masculinity, those things are fine and will be appreciated.
Most self described 'nice guys' aren't all that nice, and most women recognize this.
The guys who get rejected after this routine aren't being rejected because they are perceived as 'real men,' though that may be a comforting thought. They come across as weak or needy men.
I don't see this as a "routine." If you really do love someone, you want them to be happy. You want to be around them.
What I see as the "routine" is the "treat them like dirt" deal so that they think you are a strong, masculine person.
I think my point is well made though by the emphasis that you put on the alleged weak stuff. That is how it comes across to a woman, pretty much period. They want a cave man.
parsy, who refuses to pretend to be mean just to get some loving.